[Solved] RE Non Mol / Restraining order

You don't have a non molestation order or a restraining order. But someone that doesn't inform you of what school your son/daughter is attending are the kind of people that will look at potentially getting one out against you.

Agreed, I'm being controlled by a narcissistic playing games

Hi SadDad2019

Your situation sounds awful but unfortunately not uncommon a friend of mine who has a similar thing the school refuses to put his name on the system or inform him of anything to do with his child he’s got Pr but they don’t care, it’s to do with his court order if you have a court order stating no access or even limited access the school won’t do it.. If the school/council have see your court order they won’t want to be responsible if you show up at school to see him that’s what they probably think will happen if they tell you, I can see that this is distressing for a dad like you who has had false allegations against him but the school have a duty to safe guard if they believe that the child may be at risk and unfortunately have to listen to your ex even if she is a liar, which very sad, I feel for you.

I’ve seen some of your other posts I think that if his home life is has bad has your stating he will rebel eventually he’s probably just wants to get through school first then seek you out for himself

I know it’s really hard for you but never give up faith one day there might be a knock on the door or a message on Facebook lots of children look for their parents has adults they just don’t want to upset the parents who they live with that’s all.

Thank you

But I very much doubt that I'll ever get to see my son again - Because the animosity the mother and grandfather have for me is being put on my son - And so he must hate me.

Have you not been to family court to try and get a child arrangements order put in place. If you have PR and there are no safeguarding issues you are entitled to get school reports and attend school events and parents evenings. by doing all those you are showing you are child focused and care about your child.

My child is 16 and he leaves school this year - So the family court won't give an order for child access

And I've asked for a reason why i'm blocked from knowing the school and i'm waiting for a response

At age 16, I'm not sure that they are required to tell you anything, I think they would have to ask your son for his permission, and I don't think they are required to do ask him. Anyone else able to confirm or correct this?

At 16 under GDPR consent is for the child to give.

At 16 under GDPR consent is for the child to give.

Thank you 🙂

A non Mol only becomes active once its served on the respondent. If you've not been served with one then one isnt active. I dont know about restraining orders but I know Non Mols work that way having had great difficulty in getting one served on my ex after the court had granted it.

You only get a restraining order after a criminal conviction and it's handed down the same time as you get sentenced by the judge.

I suggest you wait 2 years and contact your boy when he's 18. If you have any Court papers showing you tried to get contact, sort them out for when you do make contact and need to explain why you weren't around.

I have a older friend whose ex kept their children away from him for no reason. If he had been a risk then he wouldn't have been allowed to do the work he did. Anyway his children contacted him in their late 20s. This was because one of their spouses pointed out their mother had behaved poorly as their parents disagreement was not theirs.