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hi just a update got appointment for parent sepatate class in couple weeks .have new appointment for court in september and still waiting on caffcass to do section 7.
One thing is thou dont know if its me being parnoid but the ex is being resonable at moment .with all the abusive and violent stuff she said about me what i so say did in the last 20 yrs and me having to pick kids up from her place of work with all cameras for her protection
Now she is allowing me to pick kids up from her house and allowing couple hrs longer
the thing is the court did interim order and stating hours i could see them
i might be being rather clincal but i just dont trust her and think she has something up her sleeve
ive informed my solicitor just to be on safe side
I had an incident yesterday where my ex tried to engineer an incident so my advice is do not do it or have an independant witness. Easier said than done.
She is probably trying to look reasonable to the courts but I would not trust.
I asked my solicitor this morning if I could have it so my ex was not present during handover but he says it makes me look picky and pedantic.
Cant win.
If you cant have an independent witness, I would ensure that handover takes place in a public place, so that you can have the back up of witnesses/cameras.
If she does try to start an incident you should always walk away from it. As you said, she tried to engineer an incident, you must walk away straight away. At least you are aware of the fact that she might cause problems, if she does, like yesterday, keep a note of them, just in case.
If you continue to pick up at the house, why don't you go in knock the door and wait at the garden gate.
Just a couple of ideas for you to think about.
Ive been advised to sit in the car going forward....suits me but I did this before and and she faffs around and makes it take an age.
I have no choice now though....collect our children from the end of the garden path and buckle them in then sit in the car I think.
Regards,
Dave
Again my experience stay away. It only adds tension and ultimately they will not hesitate to hurt you (COI - been arrested twice ) as a points scoring game.
If picking them outside without contact is a possibility take it.
If it is working for you it will get to her.....
If she has been violent and there are records it would be reasonable to request that she is not present I would have thought.
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