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Some of you may have read about the measly 56hrs a month i was allowed to see my kids hence applying for a contact order.
Well friday 14th may was D-day and quite nerving as id never had to do this before. Firstly i met up with the welfare people who where a lovely pair and listened in brief to my side and my requests. 15mins later it was my Ex's turn to get her side across and her concerns, we were then both asked into the room to discuss and come to an agreement as they did not feel it was a strong case for a full contact order, They could clearly see it was upsetting us both but this was still a shock to me.......To hear her agree to what i thought was reasonable contact on my weekends was ace. She has seriously thought how all this bitterness and obstruction has/will affect the kids and has backed down.
We still had to go in front of the judge and our case was explained and read out by the welfare officer for the record.
I now have them 11am sat till 4pm sunday
same 2-3hrs on a wednesday
Get to see them x-mas day morning
And best off all i can take them to see my girlfriends 160miles away and stop over 2 nights.
Although my contact order was put aside we both came to an amicable agreement that suited both sides. believe me there has been some rows in the past and i for one never expected this outcome so there is hope out there lads, just apply for the order take them to court and you'll prob find it will be resolved there and then as they'll prob see how stupid and obstructive they have been.
good luck
pete.
Hi Pete
congratualations on the outcome, im glad to see everything has worked out well. Hope mine goes aswell and thanks for the post on my issues
Regards
Lostguy
Hi Pete
Good for you - a right result for you and your children. Long may it last and thanks for giving us the update.
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