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Hi folks,
From my previous threads you may know I went for my first hearing on 18th July. My ex wife had made allegations that my son was unsafe with me aimed more at when my mom has him before and after nursery. In the hearing the judge wasn't interested and I don't think she had any proof so the judge directed us to provide statements as to which nursery my son should attend. (That's the basis of what the issue is)
My son has GDD (global development delay) and I have him in a nursery with me and he is doing really well but his mom wants all that to change to a nursery near her. It's all gone to court but I'm now working with a solicitor on the statement. The nursery and his SEN worker have wrote statements as to how long it took him to settle and what they are doing with him.
People tell me I'm in a very strong position as the nursery she wants is all theoretical info and he has all the support right now in his current nursery. I feel my statement is strong but I head tells me not to expect what I want to happen.
My feelings from the first hearing is that it all depends on what judge you get. Mine seemed straight to the point and more concerned with my sons education which is what is more important. I have learnt that it's very relaxed and my solicitor was really helpful.
My next hearing is 22nd aug and statements need to be in by 9th and ours is nearly ready.
I just want what's best for my son and he is in a position right now where he is happy and developing well. Why does she get the chance to disrupt him and risk changing his current happiness to somewhere he may not enjoy? It seems she is trying to get at me through him and I'm so angry about it. All I've done is provide a stable and happy environment for him and now my heart bangs when I think of a judge saying he can move to this new nursery.
I hope they see he is happy that's the main thing but my head says they won't.
Try and stay positive, I would agree that you have a strong case....it's what's best for your son at the end of the day. Because of his special needs, moving him can create more problems than it would under normal circumstances, and the support that he receives has grown around his needs and is I would assume, tailored specifically for him.
It is best though to try and keep an open mind and not have too higher expectations....easier said than done! It's impossible to second guess the outcome, all you can do is provide as much evidence as you can to support your case, this you have done.
Best of luck
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