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Hi - some advice if possible please
I have had shared care on the CSA account after producing endless copies of court orders, diaries, calenders and letters etc. Each time shared care was applied to the account the ex has appealed - each time being rejected as she had no evidence to supply so shared care remained in place... I was then assured by the CSA employee that next time it would be up to her to DISPROVE shared care as we had provided 'best evidence'.
After a court hearing to settle financial matters (nothing to do with my son), the ex called the CSA and told them that I had admitted in court that I had not seen my son since January. After this the CSA wrote to me asking for evidence that my son was coming in order for shared care to remain on my account.???? WHY I ask after all this info had been produced before along with reports from social services etc....
As I was at my witts end with the endless conversations and paying postage for diaries nearly every month, I just agreed that shared care had ended as it was only an extra £5 a month (I work part time)...
The CSA were unabable to answer why we had to produce the evidence and not her and why it was backdated all the way to Jan and not started from 2nd April when the court hearing was
any advice?????? I know its a bit late now but should this have happened??
It's difficult to comment on the exact reasons why this has happened, but by admitting to them that the circumstances have changed, their original statement that she would have to produce evidence may have been based on the situation as it was, not on what it is now.
Thanks for your reply.. I dont think I was clear enough
shared care has NOT stopped, and my son was never discussed in court, it was just something the ex said to the CSA. I just can not be bothered with the additional stress of receiving letters etc monthly when she calls them to say shared care has stopped.
I just dont see how this could have been backdated - fair enough started the increased payments from the April but calling in April and requesting a backdate to January is just not on - the CSA confirmed that she had no contact with them since the loss of her appeal in January - Its a big joke
Thanks though
I realise that it hasn't stopped, but as far as the CSA are concerned it has because that's what you have told them - presumably they are backdating it to the appeal.
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