[Solved] Statement.

Here's a template Pete

www.thecustodyminefield.com/Factsheets/TCMStatementTemplate.doc

This is the one I used for my son.

The first page should be up to and including Respondent. The next page starts with which court on the left and case number on the right. Number each page bottom centre and I think you need to use double spacing, or is it 1.5? I'll check!

Do a rough draft and then just bullet point and number the paragraphs.

Oldbutnewdad........

if this is your first statement to court then its your chance to put what you are wanting for your kid/kids and why.

you need to make sure you keep all the things you are wanting the court to grant you are child focussed....what is in the best intersts of the children and why.

if your ex has made specific threats to keep you out the kids lives then make a few pointers abotu this.....if she's tried to stop you seeing the kids put that in too.

put it this way when you see her statement come through you could be shocked at what she claims.......unless of course she's right and just being honest.

however looking at my own fight and the many other fathers here we all seem to get a lot of false claims/allegations made by the ex's....mainly because we DARE take them to court to see our kids.....
stick to the truth and make sure you have evidence to back up your important statement points. arguments via texts, emails letters etc... all good if your ex is abusive and threatening in them.

there are plenty of fathers on here going through this more recent who'll be able to shed more light on it......but keep it to facts and child focussed.....yes speak from the heart just make sure its the truth and for the best interests of the kids and you'll eventually show the ex for what she really is.

Thanks NannyJane, that is different from what i had thought.

DAD ID

I just wrote down 5 pages of what i want to say to the magistrates. my ex totally slandered me in front of them, called me a child abusing, Woman beater who is into child pronography.

There was other stuff but those are the three that cause me so much harm.

In what I have written I take it on myself to prove that each and everyone of those three is a pure evil lie. As i have said before, my CAFCASS officer persued the child abuse allegation back in July when she tracked them down. It was me who told her and it was being used to stop me from seeing my daughter saying i would abuse her. I told my officer that Child Services and the Police were not intrested in this allegation as it was only implied in writing, and it would be a civil matter.

So my Cafcass officer got onto it. and she got it quashed, got the police involved and they deemed it as an accidental touch that happened during normal play. If it happened. It didnt happen. I also state why I think the child said it happened because as a 6 yr old was watching while of sick from school a daytie programme where they were talking about paedophiles on this programme. So I believe the child to off said something and it has been a little fib and my ex has gone off on one and blown it up out of proporation with the child. That sort of subject matter i believe is totally inappropriate for a 6 yr old.

The child porn, i have already said to my solicitor i will freely give up my laptop to the police to prove there is not any on there, never has been. and i have never been to those sort of sites.

The violence and threats, well she has to prove that one, people will give me references left right and centre, i have asked for around 6 from friends, including my ex wife of 8 yrs. but i have never laid a finger on her, to prove it where are the police and medical reports???

As for the threats. well if i am going to kill her why return here from a very very safe place which would have taken me over 6 hrs to get anywhere near her. and that includes a ferry ride too, yep she ran off across some the water to an island of the english coast. yet she has know returned to 'home' where i am suppsodedly threatening to kill and abuse her.

I know, I am innocent and she has to prove different. but i just want to end all these evil twisted lies of hers once an for all.

That is what I have written in detail in the five pages i have done.

Pete

The template above is for a position statement.

Heres a link to a skeleton argument/statement. I don't know which one you need, did the judge specify?

www.thecustodyminefield.com/Factsheets/TCMSkeletonArgumentTemplate.doc

I only just started court proceedings on Monday can you take a look at my defence for my non-molestation order
please let me know what you think
great information on this site thanks to everyone