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Hello
Please can someone help.. My now ex-wife whom it has taken me two years to divorce as suddenly stopped me from seeing my daughter in the way of an e-mail. I have spent the two years why we have been getting divorced building a relationship up with her every Tuesday & Saturday and suddenly a week prior to her 3rd birthday shes just stopped me access. Whats made it worse in all this time she been trying to build up a fabricated story that she's scared of me (the ex-wife) and has been contacting the police for no reason etc etc . all of which is unfounded but due to this and for my own protection I don't go anywhere near to where she lives. She has asked me to contact her solicitor if I want to see my daughter but her solicitor says she is no longer a client of theirs as their work is done. Ive sent post to the house special delivery and she's not taking it 0 I'm going mad and going round in circles. Ive just spent 3K on a lengthy divorce as she is stubborn and jealous as I am moving on with my life and really cant afford to start racking costs up again....
Please can anyone advise of a fast track to make her respond and getting access back on track. I pay CSA every month no fail and now she is just taking the michael, and not seeing her for her 3rd birthday as really hurt me......
look forward to any help........... :}
first bit of advice is DONT do anything irrational or emotive. Just play by the book. Anything you do that can be taken as aggressive or risk adverse will be used against you.
Stay carm and dont panic. She will not be able to stop contact with your daughter although she can be obstructive but dont give the judge any reason not to order contact.
You have sent her a letter requesting contact which is great, give it a week and if no response go to your local country court and apply for a contact order. It costs £200 and you dont need a solicitor to do it so dont worry about racking up costs. You may want a solicitor present at the hearing which will be granted but i am not legally qualified and i didnt find it hard to put forward a good case so im sure you could to.
Keep paying the CSA and being a good dad and you will get contact. One word of advice, once an ex starts making up DV allegations she will only become more conniving so please keep every text, record conversations with her knowledge, have people with you for exchanges and don’t engage in any uncivil behaviour. Please protect yourself. With nothing to pin on you will get access as i trust you are saying you a good safe dad.
Doesn't look like you have many options left it seems.........if she's not receiving/returning mail then i'd guess she'll not accept mediation either. but without her replying then it's difficult to know what to do for the best.
i'd guess the only real option you have is applying for a contact order......see the threads at the top of the legal section for what forms to fill in etc...
i'd also contact the local courts to ask about how to serve papers on her as she's not responding to you or solicitor.
you can self represent in court....the only costs would be for the contact order application etc... arond £200 if you cannot get legal aid. then the costs are purely your time and travel costs if you think you could self rep. many dads on here have been forced to do this and with some sucess.
a lot of the guys (and gals) on here have plenty of experiences they can share that may help you through it.
Hi there 🙂
I personally think that you need to tick the "tried Mediation and got the FM1 form" box.
The court will expect that Mediation has been attempted before they will allow your application to move forward. If you get to court and you havent submitted the FM1 with the C100 form, the judge will most likely send you both away to attend court ordered Mediation anyway.
The beauty of the Mediation Service is that they will want to see you both seperately at first. So you can make an appointment with them and then go along and talk through your concerns/wishes with the Mediator....that done the Mediator will write to your ex and invite her to attend and discuss it from her point of view. If she ignores the letter from the Mediator or refuses to attend, the Mediator will issue you with an FM1 giving the reasons why it has failed. If its because your ex is being obstructive by refusing to go or ignoring the letter she is already on the back foot when you get to court.
Best of luck 🙂
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