Welcome to the DAD.Info forum: We are not open to new posts at this time
Our forum aims to provide support and guidance where it can, however we may not always have the answer. The forum is not moderated 24 hours a day, so If you – or someone you know – are being harmed or in immediate danger of being harmed, call the police on 999.
Alternatively, if you are in crisis, please call Samaritans on 116 123.
If you are worried about you or someone you know is at risk of harm, please click here: How we can help
hello, friends im new here and i was hoping to get some advice on my upcoming hearing in the family court, my ex told the polce id bruised her arm in january i got a call asking to pop to the local police station, when i got their i was told she said this and that i gave my side of the story i was on bail for 5 weeks, then i got a call from the police to say the case has been dropped due to not enough
evidence! all this was going on while she had a non mol out against me for the bruise on her arm, and lies she made up from the past, im in court tommorow ! she has said we where co habiting when in actual fact we where engaged, i have the pictures of herself wearing the ring id got for her, can this be used to prove we was engaed, also she said we was living together but i have proof to suggest different, as i had my own place, as also i am a full time carer for my elderly nan and i have been for the past 9 years she even went on facebook saying she going to have the last laugh, and when she goes to court she going to say she dontt want me to have contact! i was in my childs life from day 1 up until the 5th of jan my child is now 1 i wasnt allowed to see my child on hes birthday because of her either , whilst on bail i had to see my lil one through a contact centre, i didnt like it but i had no choice, i was doing so anyway, i received a non mol by hand after the fourth visit to contact centre nothing had happened in between this time contact was stopped it was at the same time she was blabbering about having the last laugh and she going to tell courts i cannot see my child, i can prove this in black and white its as if she took the non mol out so contact could be stopped, how will the court see this ? also she is hanging around with a girl who has been groomed by asian men from a young age i see her in cars with them all the time she takes cocaine and drinks also, my ex is always with her but i have not seen my ex with these asians only her friend, i have proof this girl is being allowed around my child and im so worried about my ex becoming involved and taking my son to be around these people my breif has said to ask for undertakings but i have so much proof to say she has lied what do i do thanks 😮
after the directions hearing today i was shocked to learn my ex refused to the undertaking, now the matter is set for a contested hearing, the solicitor has told me i may not get legal aid, i am optimistic the non mol was received on the 21st of jan on the 22nd the ex was saying she is going to have the last laugh, i have proof of this, i get the feeling she meant the last laugh was keeping my son away from me she even goes on to say that im a [censored] and need to move on because im not seeing my son! this i have proof of also, she claims we lived together when i have proof of different, i was going their every day i was even staying their most nights with my ex and child, she also says we where just boyfriend and girlfriend when i have a ton of pics of her wearing the engagment ring i bought her as we where engaged, but not living together full time she has made up some lies about me holding knifes and tying her up in her non mol which was delivered by hand, she then states she could not go anywhere, but i have txt messages from her saying i will see you later as im staying at moms tonight! can i overturn the contesed hearing, the only thing is i seen her mother about a week ago and a letter arrived at my exes flat which was given to me so when i seen her mom i told her that the next time you are around can you phone me so i can get the letter to you which was for my ex, but today she has told the courts i said to her mother that i was sending messages to her my ex! such lies i cannot beleive, my ex was walking in town with my child, i went over to him and bent down to wish him well but she has told the courts this also i really just want to be a dad as i have no family left just my child please can someone give me some advice, the hearing is set for the 15th of march, what will happen, what do i do do i tell them that i went over to my son and wished him well can i beat this with my evidence? thanks b.g.t
Hi sorry to hear you are going though this I can hear the panic in your post
. The direction hearing is just a direction to go forward and see how to progress , unless all parties involved agree (very rare) then it will go to another hearing
When was the last time you saw your child ? The mol is againts you and her not with your child so I cant see why you wont be able to see your child even if its in a supervised contact centre to start with. Lots of mols get dropped at court it sounds like you have the proof. For the time being you must keep away from her as any thing you do how ever innocent she will twist to make it sound really bad. You need to focus on seeing your child and except the relationship is over. I would say you being there most nights and days is pretty much living together, why has this been brought up anyway and I would think that you being with your child that amount of time is a good thing. Concentrate on your child not your past relationship prove to the court all you want is for your child to know his father and please stay away from her . Anyone seeing there child in the street would want to say hello to them its natural, I would only mention it if it comes up and just say sorry I just wanted to see my son and it was difficult to just walk past.
hi and thank you for the response i am going to admit to walking up to my son, i said about the living together because she is trying to say
also the girl who my ex is hanging around with abuses crack cocaine, im worried my ex will follow suit, she is letting this girl have direct contact my child, my ex just wants to run around with her, not taking the child searious as social services have put in the plan she must prioritorize the childs needs and must reside at her mothers, along with other things too, i also showed my breif some messages where my ex has been sleeping with another man before the child was born and getting money off him, for doing so she was texting him and meeting him after the birth aswell also she is friends with a drug dealer its on facebook this guy has pictures of his drugs all bagged up with bottles of whiskey around them, my breif has said if i show social services they will take the child into care what do i do ?
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
