When in court the judge recomended using a contact app to record all conversations and to use that. it isn't in the order as a stipulation but it was a recomendation. I have also suggested a cheap pay as you go phone to be used by our Daughter (10) only for contact when in each parents company. The mother is saying she won't use the app and that Daughter is too young to use a mobile. She is just wanting to contact through me and my mobile as she is harrassing me. I am already looking at Non mol and injunctions. This Woman is making my life a misery and i want contact from her banned or at least recorded. I want this done through the courts i can live a normal life. Will the court make it so she has to use the app? for contact so i t is all recorded
hi could propose email or whats app messages only.
It is used as a excuse to contact myself. i went to a appointment the other day for 2 hours she got wind of it through my Daughter i came out the appointment i had 57 missed calls why in there! harrassment
@obsession1 block her phone number. set some boundaries i.e. no phone calls at all. you have to keep some communication channel open for child arrangements and emergencies. usually the contact apps the court recommends are ones that you have to pay subscription fees. if your happy to pay, otherwise can use basic like email/sms/whatsapp. you could apply for a non molestation order if you feel your being harrassed or file police report.
@bill337 Hi Bill, I had a molestation order on myself (based on lies) and it was very peaceful. i am happy to have one on me again or one on her. I just don't want contact and it to be made a order that she has to use the parent apps so everything is recorded. The idea of a cheap phone was she rings son on that and doesnt mither me. Wits end.. hopefully the court will grant me a none mol for mithering.
@obsession1 It seems like she wants to continue to use whatsapp, sms or email in order to pester or harass you.
Insist on a contact app, if she refuses and continues to pester you then apply for a NMO. If one gets granted in the interim and she refuses to use the contact app then she will risk getting arrested.
@mrstrange Hi, yes its a control thing she wants to email, text, call and will not use the app or phone for Daughter she feels she still needs to spy on me and keep a eye on my life and tell me what i can and can't do with her. She tells me who i can see spend time with and its like she is in control. When in my company i am in control of what happens surely. She tells my Dauther my new partner is a bad person and she cannot speak to her or see her etc. My partner has no history, has a very good job and is a great parent herself. She surely cannot tell me who my child can and can not see. She has a new partner i don't ask where my child goes with them or what she does etc i trust she is safe and well and thats the end of it but she still wants control i feel trapped by her and want her out my life it really is making me ill
That's 100% controlling and coercive behaviour which is domestic abuse. If you have evident in the form of email or text messages I would apply for a NMO, it's free.
Keep a record of all emails, phone calls etc. You can apply for a non mol with the evidence and, if granted, that will stipulate no contact except for the purpose of arranging child contact. However she is likely to abuse that clause and it may make contact with your son more difficult. You could have another phone for child contact only and block her on your usual one. If you want to apply for a non mol, there is a guide to preparing witness statements on the Rights of Women website. Ok, its written from a woman's point of view but the principal is the same. You can also google 'how to write a witness statement for a non molestation order' and get more information