so this is my dilemma...
recently I've been asked to help out a friend of mine's son. she's a single parent who works full time, he's mid-teens, having a tough time at school and just needs someone to chat to. I've know his mum for years and so she asked me and the wife to see if we could get him to open up to us.
Well, the other day, I popped in to see him on my day off, thinking that since it's school holidays and he's in alone he could do with some company. Anyway, we got chatting and he opened up a bit...well...maybe a bit too much. He started asking some pretty awkward questions about the one thing that I find really difficult to talk about...[censored], to be specific, masturbation! 😳
Now, I'm no prude and as the saying goes when it this topic arises (god, there's too many puns to avoid in this subject, i've just sat here for 10 mins trying to think of something "appropriate" to write instead of arises, but comes up, rears its ugly head etc dont really work either, so bear with me on this one!) 90% of men do it and 10% lie about it. 😆 But i'm not very good at discussing these kinda things. But,we've all been a teenage boy at some point so we know what it's like when those hormones start surging through your body and you get the urge... 😉
However, as he isnt my son, i'm kinda torn towards feeling like it's not my place to discuss this kinda thing with him, but on the other hand, who wants to talk to their mum about their questions on this topic. So, those of you with teenage, or nearly teenage sons, how have you addressed the issue, if at all. And for all of you, did you ever talk about it with your dad, what was said and how embarassed did you feel, if at all?
In short...HELP, im outta my depth here
I would suggest to be toally candid and factual.
Good luck
I am not sure I would be comfortable having that conversation with my own kids let alone other peoples.
I would avoid it mate!
Over the years as a youth worker I have talked to 100's of boys about wanking!! there i said it 😀 The kids in the youth group always get the [censored] talk every year which we would let parents know about.
Mate firstly well done for getting involved. The kid needs a guy to talk to and you won the lottery on that one. Congratulations
I would say just talk to him. Ask him what he wants to know about it. Will he go blind? Will it fall off? Why is my [censored] bent when erect and is that normal? Do I only produce a certain amount of sperm during my life? Is once a day to much, do i have an addiction?
As a youth worker I often found that boys really wanted to talk but nobody would be honest with them. If his mum is happy for you to talk to him about [censored], sexuality and masturbation then answer his questions. There are also lots of other websites that can answer his questions too . why don't you help him find them. I would just tell mum the nature of the topic your discussing and ask if she’s OK with that. I have a mate who’s son is off to Uni this coming weekend. He’s doesn’t have a dad and so over the last 6 years he and I have regularly met up and talk girls, [censored], drugs, life. He needs that type of friendship. He’s coming for dinner on Friday night and we’re going to talk about what life’s like when you move out of home, budgeting etc. I’ll talk to him about my mistakes so he doesn’t have to make the same ones!
It's just [censored] ([censored] [censored] [censored] [censored] [censored]) 😆 Wanking, masturbation its normal esp as a teenage boy we really need to get used to discussing it as men, dads etc. I talk to my mates, married and single about their masturbation/[censored] lives it’s a normal topic of conversation!!
So let me ask you guys Basdad, Scott01 and Super Mario when was the last time you masturbated lol
Hey Harveys Dad,
Thanks for your reply, kinda what I needed someone to confirm to me really. I guess in the back of my mind I knew all the stuff you were saying, it's having the guts to say, hey, we all do it, this is what it's all about!
As for talking to your mates about it, well, I guess it depends on what kinda mates you have LOL.
Some of mine are cool about talking about it, other's not so much, I guess some ideas from years ago die hard.
But to answer your question mate...well... 🙄 ...this morning! 😆 😳 ...There, I said, and why not!. So in the spirit of openness and changing attitudes, your turn mate!
By the way...no, once a day isnt too much (it sometimes aint enough 😆 ) and no way is it an addiction!
Right then - this is one subject that I said I would find difficult to talk to my boys about so if you think I am going to tell you about my "activities" then you are very much deluded 😆
Some things are meant to be personal