Hopefully slim its just she Is being total disrespectfully like putting photos of her boyfriend kissing my son on her wall and social media, i dont know about you but thats just total disrespectfull in my eyes. she basically erases out of her life its like she remembers everything little thing Bad I did but forgets all the things I done for her, but yhh thinks I'm gonna do that and hope fully she realises what she's doing
That is low mind it must send you up the wall, My ex barred me from the scans, birth I found out the [censored] of my baby over facebook then I found out she had given birth over face book a few days after she then didnt let me see my girl for 5 weeks and if i tried to contact her she just phoned the police all that was unbearable then she stopped contact completely for 10 months I honestly don't know what gets into these women but I'm sure they will live to regret it I know a few women who done it when their kids were babies and now they are older they have completely disowned the mum and gone to live with dad.
My ex is regretting it all now I've got no sympathy what so ever even though we're getting on I can't and never will forgive her but I have put them feelings aside for the sake of our girl it might be a plan to block her on Face book so you don't see her posting stupid stuff to wined you up, shame on the fella too I'd never rub a dads nose in it, disgusting.
Just concentrate on your child blot out what the mums like if you don't react to anything she does or says she will sooon get bored.
im sorry if Im not helpful but I disagree that he's getting 'good contact' this is his child, its 'good' in that mist women sod us off, and unless we fight and fight every agency sees us as terrible fathers, unless we fight too hard, then we're wankers....
personally Id go for the mediation sooner rather than later, its usually free, and a signed c100 doesnt mean you HAVE to apply to court, just that you can.
No offence though but OP I dont know if you realised but most women have the golden uterus syndrome and you have to bowdown, most would probably say you have 'good' contact but I think a midweek night isnt the most unreasonable thing to ask for.
and even here we speak about what we are given by our ex's, given.
Mediation is not free it's anything between £150-£300 an hour [censored] expensive and nothing you decide is legally binding, Women go crazy after baby is born and once the court papers land on the door step they go absolutely tits and really dig their heels in and ALL contact is stopped like what has happened to most dads on here, his ex hasn't a problem with him seeing his child yeah it's only every other weekend but that is good for such a young baby and there has been a relationship breakdown I see that as a good building block to work from to gradually build up more contact.
At the end of the day couples HAVE to start being civil to each other to bring up their child and work together it takes a huge effort on both parts to be civil but it has to happen sooner or later the courts will make this happen if you like it or not.
Womens hormones are all over the place months if not years after the delivery a baby you've got to play canny and wisely it's a long game for the rest of your life and you must realise it's only the child that counts in all this.
i agree slim, couples do but usually its dads calming mums down, the nicer they think we are the better we have, our relationship with our children depedning on how please our xs are with us is abhorrent, I know im barking at a flowerless tree but, a quick appliction and we're fucked over financially, ill pay for my boy never doubt that but they believe everything because she has a fanny and the proving of alternatives is on us, I got a CMS with a C100 in place? I find that mad, Id goven her 400 the week before and they said sorry but doesnt matter, they ptomote family basd agreements that at the end of it all mean sod all for dads so we HAVE toapply to court, THEN we're looked on terribly for applyimg yet if we give up, we become antoher statistic as to why the system is this way!
sorry and mediation IS free if you earn under a certain amount?
I'm not commenting anymore as we are hijacking tommys thread.
Cheers for the replys guys slim your story sounds quite shocking actually it's amazing how woman can do that but you have gave me light at the end of the tunnel with the access you have now, and twister your right woman love being the boss!! Once they know they are control they use it all the time!
Mate.....she was absolutely shocking for 2 years solid from the second she told me she was pregnant absolute worse case possible, I look back at the state of my head a year ago and it sends a shiver down my spine, all good now though after a lot of hard work, yeah she was the boss but it's evened out to 50/50 now 🙂
I just hope she comes round 🙁 I just went up early because it was the Wednesday I see him and she told me I can't see him Wednesdays now so I'm getting him every other weekend 🙁 its just to long 🙁 Im in the process of writing a letter to her about mediation, it feels like the only option now. Cheers anyway slim you have gave me some good advice
Yeah man it's worth firing a shot over the bow and see what she thinks to mediation then take things from there, In the meantime try and do things to take your mind off things when you're not seeing little one I threw myself into work and worked my nut's off for a few months, get your self out and about, do a hobby, hit the gym, anything to keep you occupied I find if i'm not busy I think too much.