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Silent treatment / managing anger

 
paulfoel
(@paulfoel)
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Massive row about money. To be honest, Im right she spends way to much and doesnt care - BUT as usual I lost it and went overboard. Said stupid things as usual. Not the first time.

Silent treatment now and I hate it..... Tried to talking to her. Nope.

Yeh I know I've got to sort my anger out but how to deal with the silent treatment for now. Leave and wait for her to calm down...

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Topic starter Posted : 09/05/2021 5:28 pm
Champagne
(@champagne)
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Maybe you could write her a letter?  Explain how you feel and that there needs to be a family budget.  You could try an  anger management course too

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Posted : 10/05/2021 9:30 am
arhypnotherapy
(@arhypnotherapy)
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Dear Member 

When a partner shuts down its called stonewalling and  means a number of things. Either they are punishing you, using silence as control, or don't want to discuss the real issue.

The money side is a big 'elephant in the room' and with the right way to communicate your concerns, you can agree a boundary on expenditure together and move on. This is a common issue I find in relationship clients, but using the right language can help you get what you want, calmly and without conflict.

Good luck. Ill send a link about anger which may also help

https://www.dad.info/article/fatherhood/is-your-anger-out-of-control-1/

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Posted : 10/05/2021 12:42 pm
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