Massive row about money. To be honest, Im right she spends way to much and doesnt care - BUT as usual I lost it and went overboard. Said stupid things as usual. Not the first time.
Silent treatment now and I hate it..... Tried to talking to her. Nope.
Yeh I know I've got to sort my anger out but how to deal with the silent treatment for now. Leave and wait for her to calm down...
Maybe you could write her a letter? Explain how you feel and that there needs to be a family budget. You could try an anger management course too
Dear Member
When a partner shuts down its called stonewalling and means a number of things. Either they are punishing you, using silence as control, or don't want to discuss the real issue.
The money side is a big 'elephant in the room' and with the right way to communicate your concerns, you can agree a boundary on expenditure together and move on. This is a common issue I find in relationship clients, but using the right language can help you get what you want, calmly and without conflict.
Good luck. Ill send a link about anger which may also help
https://www.dad.info/article/fatherhood/is-your-anger-out-of-control-1/