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Hello everyone after advice 

Basically I've had 10 years worth of [censored] basically. Got a 10 year old that has been constant fighting with ex court social ect to the point now its stopped.


Also have a 6yo and 2 yo

My 6yo got taken into care at 6 weeks old due to an issue against the hospital which we proved got her back ect. Took a year 

All that happend in our current house and area  it feels like memories stick on the wall and I'm pretty reminded of it all.

Also my oldest kid lives 10 miles away from me so it's constantly hoping I don't bump into my ex and kid tbh


Basically back to the point we have had offers of a few house moves ones 60 miles away complete brand new start new everything.

But I can't get over the guilt  of pulling my 6yo out of school friends ect.

Her schools pretty crappy tbh alot of the kids arnt really nice but she's use to it I think we notice it more and she's not use to the memories around here like us.


Basically are we selfish to move us all for a completely new start from it all as the guilt is horrible 

Our area and house isn't the main issue we live in a little village. It's the memories and my ex being so close your sort of waiting for another kick off and feels like moving you'd avoid everything.


Any advice be greayful

Topic starter Posted : 12/03/2022 11:19 am
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Children are very adaptable and your needs are very important, particularly if staying put is going to affect your mental health.  There is a guide to helping children with a move on  I don't know if its good and there may be other sites which give advice.  Good luck and I hope you will all be happy.

Posted : 13/03/2022 6:53 pm
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@champagne thankyou for the reply I'll take a look at that. It's just so hard knowing if your making the right choice taking her away and restarting everything or if things will be worse moving away. Even harder when you have no family or support just us 

Topic starter Posted : 13/03/2022 7:18 pm
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Hey there,

You've been through a lot, for sure. A fresh start could really be a positive change for you and your family. ❤️ 

Posted : 16/04/2024 12:53 pm

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