Dads, do you struggle sometimes? Who do you reach out to for help? Debbie Pattison, a qualified counsellor at Fegans can answer your questions. Send them in to Ask Debbie at firstname.lastname@example.org and if she can she will answer. Today’s question is about problems in a Dad’s relationship with his stepson.
It is so lovely to hear how much you want to build a good loving relationship with your stepson. He is still very young and it may take time to improve the relationship that you have with him at the moment. Just be patient, continue to spend time with him and take him out to some fun places with you and his mum. Ask him what he would like to do and try to take an interest in what he is doing whether that is playing a game or drawing.
He may at times fear you will take up some of the time he spends with his mother. Go at his pace, explain that you want to be his friend, to spend time with him and his mum. Be patient and consistent and in time he will realize that you enhance their lives and your relationship will grow.
All best wishes, Debbie
Debbie is an experienced counsellor and advocate for children and adult’s mental health.
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