@liarliarpantsonfire

I would contact Cafcass in the first instance and see what they say. How long has it been since you last emailed the courts that you are thinking of going in already?

Do you have any current legal rep or self repping? 

It is always possible to change things, but it will need to be signed off by the courts and at this stage you will need to accept either no contact or restricted direct/indirect contact (however your ex and the courts determine) whilst doing the course. You need to be in the right frame of mind and ensure that All communication with the courts, Cafcass etc is in line with how they would expect (professional, child focused etc) so that they can see you've had a genuine change of heart etc. 

Good luck with things. 

@liarliarpantsonfire

I spoke to the court and they said if you appeal it will go to a higher court.... The thing is will I get anywhere with that???

I just left it at just put me on the DAPP course too much time has passed by

@liarliarpantsonfire

Appealing won't get you anywhere unless you have anything significantly new to add.

When you asked to be put onto the Dapp course, what did they advise would be the next steps, timescales, process etc? 

@Daddyup they said it will be past on to their legal team and maybe couple of months

@liarliarpantsonfire

Will the legal team arrange for you to do the course or for a new hearing?

With it being a few months yet, I would suggest contacting Cafcass to see what they advise in relation to the course itself and providers, current waiting lists, the process to get onto it etc once the court approves.

Unfortinately at this stage, you will just have to go through the motions and follow the processes prescribed and accept and seek support to handle the fact that it could be quite a significant period of time before the courts will allow agree to change the contact requirements. However, in the meantime work on a plan to ensure that upon completion of the course you are most lilely to get some form of direct contact. Eg, sorting your mental health, looking after your physical well being, holding down employment, having secure 1accommodation for yourself and in the future for child. Build a life that you child can share, that you can talk about in court so that you are child focused.

You may also want to consider some legal advice too in order to ensure that there aren't any other avenues or processes to consider.

Keep reaching out on the forum too. 

Daddyup

I cant take this no longer

Have decided that I will no longer live like this under there control, drastic measures will now be taken to make sure the courts understand the mental effect of this torture process.

@liarliarpantsonfire 

Mate, please for your kids sake don't do nothing silly or rash. 

It's tough what you're going through but there is help our there and in this forum.  

You can do this, don't let them break you down man.

It’s important that if you are feeling suicidal that you get some help.  You can call the Samaritans at any time and you can make an appointment with your doctor for some medication.  Try to stay strong for the sake of the children.  Its a very difficult time but if you do the Dapp course you will show that you are willing to comply.  Perhaps you have friends you can confide in to help you through this too