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(@ttfto)
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Domestic Violence

I'm a single father living with my two sons and my grandparents. After just moving from another state. I have a pending domestic violence case where my wife who I separated from for five years is claiming I'm a danger to her and the boys. She only named one of our children in the report and our second child isn't biologically mine but I am his father and have been taking care of our boys for the last five years solely by myself. We just moved back to my grandparents house. I'm having no luck finding a job because of my background check. My grandparents are very old and need just as much help as my children. My children are ages 7 and 5. And I just recently found out from my public defender that there's a restraining order against me where I'm not suppose to be around my oldest son or my separated wife. I don't really know how to get out of this bind. She's abandoned the children never sees them accept certain phone calls once a couple of months. And last time my kids went to stay with their mom my seven year old had to call me to come drive three hours because their mom was laid out on the floor from alcohol poisoning. I know every situation I'm putting myself and my kids in can get better but I just need ideas and help on how to do just that. I'm slightly concerned because she's very impulsive and even though she was basically unfit to take care of them do to her health and lifestyle I feel at any point in time she can call and claim that I kidnapped the children. In which case I'd be arrested again and my kids would be taken for a ride back to their mom which is not the best situation. My oldest has been in foster care before with my now deceased daughter who died in Kansas CPS. and I don't want my son's to be exposed to that nor do I want them seeing me be arrested. Honestly there is so much more to this story that it would take a book just to go in depth. Please if anyone could give me some advice on how to find a place to live and a job and whether or not I need to find actual legal help. I'd really appreciate it. Thank you

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Topic starter Posted : 09/10/2022 3:03 am
(@champagne)
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I'm sorry to hear this - you seem to have more than your fair share of troubles.  We're UK based so the law may be different here.  Is there an organisation locally you can go to for advice?  Perhaps you could talk to your children's school and ask for help

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Posted : 09/10/2022 10:58 am
(@bill337)
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Domestic Violence

I'm a single father living with my two sons and my grandparents. After just moving from another state. I have a pending domestic violence case where my wife who I separated from for five years is claiming I'm a danger to her and the boys. She only named one of our children in the report and our second child isn't biologically mine but I am his father and have been taking care of our boys for the last five years solely by myself. We just moved back to my grandparents house. I'm having no luck finding a job because of my background check. My grandparents are very old and need just as much help as my children. My children are ages 7 and 5. And I just recently found out from my public defender that there's a restraining order against me where I'm not suppose to be around my oldest son or my separated wife. I don't really know how to get out of this bind. She's abandoned the children never sees them accept certain phone calls once a couple of months. And last time my kids went to stay with their mom my seven year old had to call me to come drive three hours because their mom was laid out on the floor from alcohol poisoning. I know every situation I'm putting myself and my kids in can get better but I just need ideas and help on how to do just that. I'm slightly concerned because she's very impulsive and even though she was basically unfit to take care of them do to her health and lifestyle I feel at any point in time she can call and claim that I kidnapped the children. In which case I'd be arrested again and my kids would be taken for a ride back to their mom which is not the best situation. My oldest has been in foster care before with my now deceased daughter who died in Kansas CPS. and I don't want my son's to be exposed to that nor do I want them seeing me be arrested. Honestly there is so much more to this story that it would take a book just to go in depth. Please if anyone could give me some advice on how to find a place to live and a job and whether or not I need to find actual legal help. I'd really appreciate it. Thank you

Hi,

this forum is based out of UK and we are not experienced with issues in North America. I highly recommend this group: Divorced Dad with Kids. American: https://www.facebook.com/groups/320844451641660

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Posted : 10/10/2022 9:09 pm
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