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Hula
 Hula
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My daughter is 18 and goig to uni in Sept after finishing her A levels this Yr.

As I understand it the cms payment should finish at the end of August, maybe first week of Sept but I have had no notification of this from either the ex or the CMS. 

I have tried to meassge/call the cms but getting any response is a nightmare from them. 

I can't ask my daughter as she she broke all contact with me 6+ yrs ago. 

I can't ask the ex as she refuses to speak to me civilly, so much so I had to have a solicitor request she only use email to contact me save constant harraesmant/abuse  etc. 

What do i do?,  do i just stop after the end of August, do i continue til I am notified?

There doesn't seem to be any clear advice on the departments website regarding this. 

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Topic starter Posted : 23/07/2022 12:55 pm
DARNOC
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Hi Hula,

 

 

Similar to me! daughters broken communication but i refuse to speak to the mother because of 8yrs of lies and deceit,  Cease paying in Sept as its Uni.  I would however inform the CMS via their ridiculous call system and record it,  even ask for a confirmation email or letter if i were you!!!   as we all know you cannot trust the CMS at all.   Hipe this helps and i hope all our daughters see the truth one day and have a relationship with all us Dads ...

What i would do persoanally and still hope to,  is Fund my daughter directly throughout Uni,  i just refuse to pay the mother as it funds other things.

Regards

Darnoc

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Posted : 23/07/2022 4:07 pm
Hula
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Cheers Darnoc for the advice.

 

I have already sent a message using their portal on my account, unforbut haven't had any reply, tired calling a few times before I did that but was on hold formlonger than my 30 min lunch allowed.

They aren't open on Saturdays now so can't see how I can ring them unless I book a days holiday just to  all them!!  What a joke eh.

I may be restricted to just messaging them grrrr.

So I will stop paying after the 1st of Sept payment although I keep hold of the money in case there's an issue (fingers crossed there won't be.. But going on others experience when the case's are coming to an end I'm not expecting a smooth end!).

Honestly something that ls this important and costs people their hard earned money shouldn't be so sketchy to manage, its stressing me out so much.  I'm already struggling financially, every penny counts kinda thing so I like to have things planned in detail... And yet the cms seem to work on smoke, mirrors and arbitrary rules. 

 

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Topic starter Posted : 24/07/2022 5:29 pm
actd
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Might be worth sending a letter via recorded delivery as well and holding onto the receipt and a copy of the letter, just so you have additional proof that you have notified them.

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Posted : 28/07/2022 3:25 pm
stevepop29
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Hi Hula,

 

I'm in a similar situation, with my daughter who has just finished her A-Levels and is now taking a gap year (currently looking for a job) before starting uni in Sept 2023.

 

I've managed to speak with someone at CMS who advised me that I must continue paying CM until CMS have been informed by HMRC that child benefit payments will stop - this is normally in August, with Child Benefit payments stopping at the end of August. 

 

My September CM payment is due on the 2nd, and I'm 50/50 if I will make this payment. CMS did tell me they would recover any overpayments I make, if notification is made after Sept 2nd!

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Posted : 30/07/2022 1:39 pm
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