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[Solved] Brother and Dad are scumbags- want nothing to do with them

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Advice needed. Would you have an issue with this?

Background. Dad is in his 80s. Complete nightmare. Getting very very selfish and needy. Ignore my kids totally - they are my kids not his grandchildren in his head just my kids and I'm sure he thinks of them as an annoyance.

Brother is few years older than me. His relationship history is chequered. 4 kids (all different partners) none of which he sees. New relationship now.

Bit of a spanner in the works for him. Issues with his ex where his last son lives. Social (for whatever reason) have contacted him and asked him to take custody.

Hes decided that its too inconvenient for him because "he works". Hes discussed with Dad and he agrees because "you've got to put work first". So the option is he'll go to a foster family. FFS are you two real???

When Dad told me this I nearly exploded. He goes to school so its not like its all day. How on earth they both think the rest of the world copes I don't know.

Basically. boils down to it'll eat into brothers pub time and, for Dad, I'm sure its because he doesn't want his other son to have a responsibility to take his focus off him (like me).

Absolutely disgusted with the pair of them including Dad to be honest. I just can't speak to them at the moment. If someone said I could emigrate tomorrow I'd be gone and never see the pair of them again. I can honestly that - its so sad.

If Jeremy Kyle was still on this pair of scumbags would be a shoe in. This is my own Dad here.....

Am I right to be so annoyed?

Topic starter Posted : 07/06/2019 1:45 pm
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I seem to remember that we have discussed your Dads behaviour in the past. I will say, in your Dads defence, that his generation were bought up to put work first.

Of course you can be annoyed... but it’s worth considering the consequences for the child, had your brother reluctantly agreed to have him, he might not have got the emotional support, from your brother and your has to be about what is best for the child, but I can understand how you feel... it’s valid.

Posted : 07/06/2019 7:27 pm
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hi paul,

my parents are very elderly. their not nasty, but noisy children is like torture for them lol. i guess all you can do is try to talk sense into them. focus on your children, their your priority. some people just should not be allowed to have children.

Posted : 08/06/2019 12:54 am

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