Hi,
Teenager has had issues with mother and has decided to move in with me. Ex says teen has been deceiptfull and full of attitude. Teen believes he has been a bit but also doesn't communicate feelings with her as she tends to manipulate/coerce/bully/ overly controlling kids until they give in.
Teen now wants to live with me, what are his legal rights? I suggested to the ex that the teen stay with me for a few days to cool off, but the ex thinks I am under-mining her parenting.
I'm stuck in between doing what I think is best for my teen and the possibility of losing access to the rest of the kids.
Any advice would be appreciated.
Moving On
Hi there,
It certainly is a tough one! The mother may have a valid point, but I think your suggestion of a cooling off period is a good one. It looks like whatever you do you are going to upset someone though.
I think you've got to ask yourself if she is a good mother, have you had concerns about her parenting in the past, do you think this might be six of one and half a dozen of the other?
You might like to consider Relate as an option, this is their field of expertise. Here's a link www.relate.org.uk
Best of luck
Thanks Nannyjane,
My main concern was that the teen was upset and needed to get away from a situation that was extremely stressful. It didn't help that she was pulling the "back me up or else", we were suppose to be joint parenting not do as I say parenting.
There are some things i don't agree with in her parenting and bit my lip for too many years, but generally, she is a good mother.
Saying that I have to stand up for my kids and do what is best for them, including protecting them.
We have a mediation meeting coming up which should be interesting.