Hello all,
Does anyone know a link to a contact book example or know what should be in written in one?
The reason why I ask is that currently my ex seems to be using ours to be very critical after my visits I.e how unsettled he was at childminder, how he had diarrhoea, how he didn't sleep etc. And I am very concerned she is using this as evidence to go back to court and try and reduce the weekday contact visit.
It is not written in the order to write in the book should I just stop?
J
Hi,
My partner and his ex use a contact book, except his ex hardly writes anything when we actually want to be updated on things such as what child is learning to do i.e writing their name, learning to read so we can encourage the same at our house and have consistency between the childs two homes.
If we dont have anything to communicate we always put a little summary:
We had a busy/quiet weekend, child was fine all weekend, child has been bathed and in pjs. OR if child hurt themselves, just make the other parent aware and say please keep an eye on it. Doing that just covers you and it is important to communicate.
Maybe you can ask why they seem unsettled and what your ex suggests to prevent this happening in the future and/or just write how they were in your care and that way you have already covered yourself by saying what they have been like.
These things shouldnt be taken as digs or shouldnt be seen as an opportunity to dig at the other parent but to communicate the childs wellbeing.
I think its important to communicate so personally I would just write a response by saying how the child was in your care and asking what they suggest.
If the response is something like they had diarrhoea you just need to respond by saying how they did/didnt have it whilst in your care and did/didnt eat anything to cause that effect and if the mother could update you on the situation when they start to get better etc. Shows concern and shows you are looking after your child properly.
Hope that helps, that what we do in our situation.
Hi There,
I agree with the above, use as suggested and just answer what she has written asking how unsettled, and how long it lasted, and when you are writing your notes talk about what they have eaten, ect
GTTS