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Hello
I’m so sorry for what you are going through. Obviously can’t know all of the circumstances. Just trying to think of anything that may help you. I certainly don’t mean to disrespect you in any way.
my Grandson (when he was younger) would never play with his own dad, if he tried to join in, he would scream no not you! After weeks of this and us asking him why, he finally spoke to me saying, mommy said daddy naughty, don’t play with daddy. Gave us something to work with, we spent time telling him how nice daddy was and how much he loved him. Didn’t take long for things to change.
is there another family member that your daughter could spend time with.
Hi
I can't really advise on whether to move area and schools but my thoughts are as below..
If you are going to do the move now would be the best time.. Your child is still early into schooling/education, still at the development stage and therefore will take to a new environment, school easily.. In a year or 2 this will become much difficult, more so if your mental health worsens over the next 2 years and you are wanting to move just at a time your child has built strong relationships at school as an 8 or 9 yo..
Good mental health for you will positively impact on your child and family whilst the reverse is also true.. In your shoes if I had the option to move then when child is young would be best time to do it..
The next suitable time will potentially be just before child goes to high school, can you cope until then?
Re your mental health, if you do decide to stay where you are, maybe see a counsellor, look at the support network around you etc..
All the best..
Children make friends very quickly so I don't think you need to worry about that. You could talk positively to your daughter about the move being an adventure. If staying where you are is bad for your mental health then that should be your priority. If your mental health deteriorates, that will adversely affect your daughter. You could try NHS talking therapy - you can google it but will also see website where you pay for counselling. A chat with a trained counsellor could help you sort out your thoughts and worries.
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