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(@Teesside)
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Hello,

I'm new here and hope you might be able to offer some advice. My wife and I are now divorced. She lives in the house with my two sons, one of whom will not speak with me. Parental abuse on my ex-wifes part (sorry-very bitter). I set up mediation to sort out our finances and what would happen to our property. There is substantial equity in the property. My boys are 17 and 14. I realise that there is little I can do until they are both 18, but she refuses to discuss anything with me and did not attend the mediation. My finances are nil.

many thanks

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Topic starter Posted : 29/07/2018 8:36 pm
Mojo
 Mojo
(@Mojo)
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Hi there

I'm sorry I don't know much about the financial side of things, I deal mainly with child contact issues. However, I'm sure someone with more knowledge will be along shortly to share their experience.

I'm surprised that the finances weren't sorted out as part of the divorce settlement, is there still a mortgage attached to the property?

It's probably advisable to get some legal advice on your situation, we have partnered with Dialogue First, who offer a free telephone consultation with a fully qualified lawyer, here's a link

https://www.dad.info/divorce-and-separation/making-it-work/free-legal-consultation-divorce-separation

There's also a pretty good website called Wikivorce that have lots of info.

It's such a sad situation that one of your sons is refusing to speak to you, would that be the older child? It's quite common for the older child to "fill the shoes" of the departed parent and take on the role of protector... this often means that they will side with the resident parent. Don't give up hope that he will return, keep the door open for him and make contact with him from time to time to let him know you love and miss him.

All the best

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Posted : 30/07/2018 1:08 pm
Mojo
 Mojo
(@Mojo)
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We also have a Moderator that offers 1 2 1 advice and support on all things finance, her name is Samantha Downes here's a link to her thread, where you can comment and she will DM you.

https://www.dad.info/forum/finance/50161-financial-support-and-information-ask-your-questions-here#93279

Best of luck

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Posted : 30/07/2018 2:20 pm
(@Samantha Downes)
Eminent Member Registered

Thanks Mojo..
Hi Teeside - it sounds like you need to make use of the legal helpline. If you didn't have a settlement then it sounds like you need to put something into place. That article covers what happens to property if you have an arrangement.
Your situation sounds very difficult, let us know how you get on.

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Posted : 07/08/2018 1:38 pm
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