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to make a long story as short as possible
i was with my ex about a year and a half im 19 and have one girl 9 mnths ex has 3 others 5,3,2 a while back the 5 yr old got into the habit of lying and does about everythiing no matter how small one time she decided to tell my ex's mother and sister i beat her, the sister is a manipulative slapper to put it as nicely as possible and the mother well used to have to get friends take her kids to school as she would be too drunk. my ex's dad is a heavy canabis smoker along with their 2 sons, both boys are all bark and no bite anyway i was cleared by social services and that was the end of it, my ex's auntie and uncle play mind games with everyone and her 2 yr old went to stay with them he had a bruise on his cheek and ear so they called social services and the police saying it was me as i spent an hour with the 2 yr old that day they then took the 3 kids to the hospital with the police to give them a check to see if i had been beating them or molesting them which is completely untrue. during the time i was with her i lost my job and still unemployed now along with homless tryin to live off of jsa £94 every 2 weeks she wont let me see my daughter even thought we have a soliciters agreement for contact im currently trying to take her to court for custody as she is a bad parent (thats not spiteful or any sort of nastiess just the truth) her family have always tried to push me out and have discouraged my daughter from saying dad, i grew up in an odd sort of way me and my sis kind of raised ourselves along with our dads friends who are still all classed as football hooligans and hells angels etc i have always had a strong taste for drink and it keeps getting stronger, my dr told me im depressed but wont give me anything due to age and i just cant seem to controll my temper at all atm my temper has always been umm well extreme is the term the police have used in the past :/
any thoughts or advice would be brill cheers
Hi and welcome
From what you have said about yourself - which is very honest and open - I would say that realistically, you are looking at supervised contact so some time to come, and eventually possibly moving to supported contact. Take a read of yoji's guide to representing yourself at the top of the legal eagle section, to see about applying for a contact order. Rather than trying to get medicine to help, I'd ask your GP if he can refer you to anger management couselling, and also as you are concerned about your drinking, then also alcohol abuse treatment.
cheers but my ex even calls me at midnight most night with my little girl screaming at her telling my to come and get her as she doesnt want her anymore so i come and take her the next day the police are at my sisters door saying i took her without consent :/
Hi
It may be worth having a chat to children's services - at the very least your ex may need so support, and CS will do that if necessary.
- Samaritans – call 116 123
- Shout – text the word ‘Shout’ to 85258
