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I currently pay CSA for a child who I have never met, I was pretty much used by my ex but that's not why I'm here.
She recently got married and changed the child's surname, something which I believe has now been replicated on his Birth Certificate and her new husbands name added to that certificate (I'm not down as the father). I had a DNA test done at the beginning so he's definitely mine.
What I want to know is if this affects me paying CSA? As in my eyes she has confirmed that her new husband is the child's legal father, so surely she should stop milking me for money now?
Is there anything I can do?
As you are the bio father the CSA won't be interested in what is on the birth certificate IMO.
As you weren't on the birth certificate you had no rights over the child and she didn't need your permission to alter the birth certificate, although if the husband hasn't legally adopted the child then I think it is perjury to knowing put a mans name on the birth certificate who isn't the bio father.
Morally I think they are wrong to continue to take money from you now, have you talked to them about this?
The only other thing would be to upset their apple cart and go for contact and parental responsibility through the court....or at least threaten this unless they close the CSA claim against you. If it were me I would want to make their cosy little life as disrupted as possible!
Echoing what Jane said! She has effectively given her husband parental responsibility of him, so he technically he is now the father and responsible for the child, money, etc. If they were to split she'd be able to go to CSA for him for maintenance! If you can't talk to her I'd speak to the CSA.
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