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Hi,
I split up with my ex in March and she quickly called CSA on me.
I ended up giving them the only payslip I could find at the time, which had a considerable amount of overtime on. I have asked them time and time again to not take the overtime into account, but they are refusing to do this. I even provided them another payslip to prove I do not do overtime consistently, but they are still calculating payments from a net salary £200 more than my actual net salary.
They also want to backdate the claim to when my partner first called, however the amount they are requesting is also worked out on an incorrect figure. I am willing to pay what I owe for the sake of my child, but I can not afford to be over paying.
They won't come to any sort of agreement with me at all, and are being very pushy demanding the money from me.
I am wondering if I can just direct debit money straight to my partners bank account, and whether this would be proof that I am paying maintenance? If I did this, would CSA leave me alone, or would the "extra" money they are demanding leave me in arrears.
I have flat out refused all calls from them now as they are stressing me out to no end.
Any help would be appreciated.
Just an FYI, my CSA payments should be £244 per month, but they are quoting £275 per month. I gave my ex a one off payment from an ATM withdrawal for £250 at the start of April, but she has denied this and I didn't get any receipt. I also bought a new cot which cost £280 at the same time, but CSA refuse to take this into account either (this makes no sense to me as surely a cot is for the maintenance of my child).
Hi
I would not pay anything at all directly to your ex under any circumstances while the CSA are involved and you are in dispute - the CSA have calculated the payment and if you pay less, then you go into arrears, and as you have found, without the proper trail, they won't count any money that you pay or any items that you purchase - the CSA calculate what you should pay, and if you wish to buy anything additional for your children, that is up to you but is not counted towards maintenance. From what you have said, a family based arrangement is out of the question as your ex is obviously not going to agree to anything less than the CSA calculation. They are correct in the fact that it will be calculated back to the day the case was opened, but they should only take regular overtime into account - 3 consecutive payslips should help to convince them, but you should also have just received your P60 from your employers, so I'd send them a copy of that as that shows your total earnings over the last year. If you don't get any success quickly, then go and see your MP, with everything written down to leave with him/her - a lot of members on here have found that their MP can often get results quite quickly.
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