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Afternoon Im new on here and im pretty sure you have all heard this question or situation before.. But would like some advice. I have been separated from my 4 and a half year old sons mother for near on 3 years I have always had my son every wednesday overnight and every saturday and sunday overnight sometimes more. the relationship up untill recently with his mother was always amicable and was also going to see him most nights to bath him read him a story etc however the arrangment always was I had him those three nights as said previously over night.
He has just started school full time and his mother said as she would not be seeing him as much would like every other weekend to which I agreed and I asked for extra days in the week the following week still keeping the arragment at 40/60 access in her favour.. I drew up a timetable giving me 6 overnight stays out of 14 for me and 8 for her giving a fair split and still giving us both time with him at weekends alternating. She refused to comply and said I can take him for dinner for an hour twice a week and have him every other weekend... thats it !!
the question I am asking is if I have always had 40/60 access can she just cut this as and when she feels like it????
Hi, over the years contact arrangements will change and it is all about you both being flexible and what is the best for your child. It seems from what you have written that you have had good contact and a good relationship with your ex. To answer your question , yes she can cut contact , she is classed as the main carer and to be honest if you went to court you would probably get less and they would wonder why you were even there when shes offering what shes offering
Going to School full time will be very tiring for your son and will need routine. Maybe Alt weekends to include a Friday night as well and the alternate week maybe Weds and Thursday overnight. You could try going to mediation if you cant agree.
hi thanks for the reply I have suggested that but she is not budging.. she has just recently fallen out with everyone in hers and my family so in my mind she seems to be doing it out of spite although I can not prove that
I think Mediation might help, he's a link www.nfm.org.uk you might also be entitled to legal aid for this service and you can check that here www.gov.uk/check-legal-aid
If mediation fails then the next step would be to apply through the courts for a contact order.
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