Hi all,
So I had a hearing today. Didn’t go as I wanted really and I’ve decided mid hearing to accept the findings against me and do a DAPP course if cafcass find me suitable.
However the judge did order that the weekly phonecalls should be without the mother present as she is telling them to leave the phonecalls etc.
My main question is if i get accepted into the course and get excellent reports. Is it likely that halfway through I could apply for supervised contact eventually leading to unsupervised once the course is complete.
I would like to add I have 0 criminal record and did take an undertaking of a non mol a year back from the mother.
thanks in advance
Are you suggesting other fathers cave in to lies and accept a penalty for actions that didn't happen?
Hi
Welcome to the forum.. Absolutely, get to the interim report and apply for supervised contact.. Its very important to understand what the DAPP involves and the play the game/toe the line (comply) which includes participating in sessions etc..
One of the main challenges is usually facilitating the contact.. There are delays at contact centres as they are now starting to reopen so if this something for you to consider then make contact with local ones.. Otherwise an alternative (sometimes better) option is to look at supported contact whereby you have a mutual friend or a member of your family support contact by picking up child and spending the day with you... Its always good if they have a child too..
The interim report isn't so detailed as the final report so it's important to make a positive impression during the sessions so that theses are factored in...
All the best...
@liarliarpantsonfire I didn’t quite make it clear before. I have been through this for a year and a half now and haven’t seen my children in that time due to exes allegations etc. This was a contested hearing and judge and cafcass has been on her side form the start. So I seen it as the only way to get contact back with my children and stop any conflict they are going through.
However in my opinion the family court system is greatly biased to the mother. Even the CAFCASS woman said their concern is the mother and the children. So if I have to give into her lies to have a relationship back with my children then I will do that. Thanks Sean
@Daddyup Thankyou for your advice that is exactly what I was wanting to hear. Thankyou