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Discharging Court Order

 
antdad
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Good evening all,

Been a while since I posted and things haven't gone great. But to cut a long story short, my son effectively hates me, when he has come he's been so vile towards my other children, he's made it very clear he doesn't want to come and I've run out of options. He hasn't come since the summer and my other children have been so affected by it. It's mentally drained me as much as the court process did.

Im trying to find out how simple it is to discharge my child arrangement order? Can anyone advise. I've been advised to send a letter to the judge who granted the order.

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Topic starter Posted : 24/10/2021 7:34 pm
Champagne
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Thats very sad and it must be difficult for you.  Basically the order gives you the right to have contact with your son.  You don't have to go and pick him up.  You might as well leave it running in case he changes his mind.  

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Posted : 24/10/2021 7:50 pm

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antdad
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Thanks for the reply.

I was concerned about her enforcing the order out of spite.

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Topic starter Posted : 24/10/2021 7:52 pm
Champagne
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I hope she doesn't do that especially as you son has made it clear he doesn't want to come

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Posted : 24/10/2021 7:54 pm

antdad
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@champagne I wouldn't put is past her, that's the issue. Why I considered discharging myself as the best option.

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Topic starter Posted : 24/10/2021 7:56 pm
Daddyup
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Hi

That's a difficult situation. However, legally she cannot enforce the order. It is not possible to force you to see your son.

Enforcement can only be done where contact is being prevented against a court order.

I would ensure your son has/knows all the possible ways to contact you in case he wishes to do so in future. You could also start things up again in future slowly by sending letters or a postcard etc..

 

Sometimes they just need to mature or have a change in their lives that makes them want to try again. 

 

All the best. 

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Posted : 25/10/2021 11:25 am

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