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I hadn't been allowed to see my son for over 5 years I wasn't allowed to talk to him at all. This was what my ex decided when she vanished to spain. I had my son brought to UK at christmas and left for his grandma my mum to collect. He has settled well and we have built up a bond and he's doing well at school here in UK. I was told by ex he was not behaving at school and was out of control....
this isn't evident here in UK. My son has a family here and he told me he is worried his mum will kidnap him and take him back to spain? I feel his mum is angry or feeling guilt that he's doing s well here after she literally dumped him here.... What can I do to prevent
anything happening? My son is now 10years old...
I didn't have my sone brought here to uk, his mum brought him with as little as a phonecall saying she couldn't cope with im and she got off the plane handed him over to my mum his grandma and ex went back to spain on next plane....
Hi there and welcome 🙂
I think you definately need a Residence Order and this can only be granted in Court. As this is unlikely to be contested as the mother has abandoned him it should be a relatively problem free process.
You will need to fill out and submit a C100 form to your local Family Court. This costs £200. You may also need to apply for Parental Responsibility, this can be done at the same time. If you werent married and your son was born before December 1st 2003, you wont have Parental Responsibility.
if you got to the top of the Legal Eagle section you will find two stickys, the first is called "Contact Order C100 Guide" and gives lots of information about the application for Residency (custody). the second is called "How to Represent Yourself in Court" and explains the court process. Of course you may decide to have a solicitor represent you but be aware that this can cost thousands and ther are many Dads on here that choose to self represent so you will be given plenty of advice and support should you choose to go down this route.
What passport does he have, and do you now have that? Also, do you think there is a realistic prospect of her abducting your son? If so, then I'd mention this in court. However, I agree with NJ's assessment above - the way she handed him over is not going to win her any favours with the court, and he's now settled with the school and friends, so it's unlikely a court is going to return him to his mother.
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