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Hi,
I have the final hearing now in 10 days time and need to submit my statement by end of the week. The court papers confirm that the issues are limited to 2 main points, 1 being contact over Xmas...but more specifically Xmas eve overnight and Xmas day morning. My proposal was that as my ex had our son last Xmas on Xmas eve and Xmas day until after lunchtime, then it is only fair that I have him for that period this year and then this pattern to alternate year by year. My belief was that at 6 years old he is missing out on the uniquely special time with me that is bedtime on Xmas eve and waking up Xmas day morning. If my ex had her way he would never be able to enjoy that special time with his father, ever! My question is, how would you word this to the court within the statement? And is there any precedent from previous cases I can quote in support?
Cheers
Tel.
I think the way you have worded it above is good enough, except for the bit about its only fair, and the sentence about if the ex had her way!
I don't think there's a precedent as such but it's usually understood that these special occasions are shared alternately.
Thanks Nannyjane. Has anyone experience of this specific issue that has gone through the court process?
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