Hoping someone can help here.
Will try and keep it short otherwise we will be here hours with the rubbish I've been through
Me and my ex wife split 2yrs ago, she moved 100 miles away with our 2 children. I pick them up from school 1 day a week and have them overnight on a sat.
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We have finally sold our house and I'm moving closer to them so that I can be a proper part of their lives again and have them 50/50. I'm leaving my current job in hospitality what I've been in 15 yrs and re training as a HGV driver looking to work 4 on 4 off with the idea to have our kids on my 4 days off. Ex origanly agreed to this but has since backtracked saying it's not settled enough. Personally I think it would be settled enough as its 4 consecutive nights would love to hear your opinions.
When up there I want to get this all set out in mediation and get it court ordered to hopefully stop her changing the goal post when she benifits.
What do you think the courts view would be regarding this and what's involved with doing this.
Thanks for your time
hi,
I think if you do move a lot closer, this should increase your chance of getting 50/50. if you can get kids to school in 20-30 minutes, would be great. I think you should wait till after you move and settle down in area and job, then apply for mediation.
hi,
I think if you do move a lot closer, this should increase your chance of getting 50/50. if you can get kids to school in 20-30 minutes, would be great. I think you should wait till after you move and settle down in area and job, then apply for mediation.
Thanks Bill
The plan is to move within 5 miles of their school so that shouldn't be an issue.
I'm going to take 6 months off work when I first move closer and be self employed so will pretty much be free to have them whenever and just fit work arround them. After 6 months I'm going to see my situation and if needed look to start work driving. I would only be looking to take on a job that fits arround them hopefully 4 on 4 off as I think that's a good routine.
We are going to do mediation so that atleast it's on paper what we have agreed, I will make sure I stick to my side of the agreement and keep a record of when I've had them and when she has broken the agreement if needed for court.
I'm worried though as she tells so many lies to get her own way,
@fando hopefully you can get it sorted in mediation. somes times courts can reject 50/50 if there is lot of acrimony between parents and if they do not communicate directly for child arrangements.