[Solved] Handover

It sounds more her not wanting to let go and her worrying rather than anything else……..but it will make your little one worse…….and trust me I’ve had that with mine refusing to come with me…mine’s 5 and it was going on most of last year with her not helping matters.

Not sure how but it needs to be nipped in the bud before it gets any further! My relationship with my ex is through court and that’s it…..i seriously mistrust her actions and the way she has alienated me in my sons life……we do not talk full stop now…..any communication is to be done via letter now….as she has tried using emails and texts between us as harassing…..but I’ve not been and have had to prove that with police and courts!

Don’t get drawn in to things mate….any emails if she worrying etc… then

I’d suggest may be speaking with Karen Woodall - http://karenwoodall.wordpress.com/
And see what she thinks she gave me some excellent advice but I couldn’t get my ex to understand what she was doing to my son and our relationship……basically my ex thinks that only her way is right and no one else’s opinion counts.

Good luck

Hi Dad I D.
Thanks, I'll contact Karen & see what she can recommend.

My ex also thinks that her's is the only opinion that counts - "I'm his mother, so you have no right to say what happens to my son". Even though we were married, and I'm his legal & bio father, she thinks that what I believe is irrelevant.

She actually believes that she's compromising by allowing me to see our son, even though it took a contact order from the court - so what the court tells her to do, is her compromise.

;;) sounds like you married my ex lol if you did then good luck with that one pal :whistle:

Well KMac a good question there…….in my case me taking my ex to court for more time with my little one resulted in me not seeing him for 3mths until court ordered contact to resume, then all [censored] broke loose after that…….she then said I’d hit her a few years ago….i then had to fight that with evidence and prove I hadn’t.
Then she stopped contact again cos I refused to tell her where I was taking our son on one of the full days I was then having again…..i was just fed up with her telling my little one what we were going to ruin any surprise I’d arranged.
When she appeared in court that time she claimed our son had told her I’d hit him around the head….he wasn’t quite 4 at the tim…..that stopped all contact until cafcass had done reports on me and her and our son etc… of course I’d never hit him she’d decided to fight dirty and claim all sorts of rubbish to try and get control over the situation again.
Contact resumed at contact centres because she wouldn’t agree with the cafcass report.
I jumped through every hoop just to get time with my little one.

Even when full contact was agreed in court she then tried to claim I was harassing her - we were selling the house we jointly owned and estate agents couldn’t get hold of her to arrange a viewing, I texted her 4 times in two days and had police round then to say I was harassing her.
That took no time to prove with the police but delayed things in court another few months until I got the police disclosure and again proved to court the ex to be a liar and manipulative yet again!

The judge ripped in to her finally at the Finding of fact hearing late in 2011….her barrister’s face was a picture that day when I proved her a deceptive liar on each of the claims she’d tried using as her defence for stopping me seeing my son each time.

That was still not the end of things……..i have had court order after court order broken by her cos she thinks she can and won’t get punished cos she’s right and everyone else including the law is wrong.
So that’s what I’ve been fighting the since the beginning of 2012….2013 I got the order enforced with penalties of imprisonment if she breaks it again………and again the look on her barrister’s face was again just horror at the lies I could prove about her client!

At the end of the day things are now that bad between us that I never directly communicate with the ex….its all in writing via a third party (her solicitor) so that I am fully protected against her [censored].

She still tries to control things even now but I just tell her solicitor what has been sent or said to me and it goes back to normal for a few weeks.

Hopefully now the ex realises she will never get rid of me from our sons life, I don’t expect for one moment ever to be civil with her and I don’t expect this to be sorted and never have to take it back to court…..the next one will be later this year when asking for over night contact based on how the full days have been going so far……but I know the courts will see and back me up but I know the ex won’t agree and may need to be reminded of the penalties of not complying with the courts.

Dad-I-D

I feel your pain, it sounds like your ex and my ex would get along just fine.

I'm just hoping that one day the judge will just turn around and hand my two over to me. That would be the happiest day of my life!