[Solved] hospital appointment

Dear all.
To start off with i hope i have posted in correct part of forum, if not i do apoligise. Right here is what i need advice for.
My daughter has to go for an important hospital appointment soon and i'm confused and need advice on whether i should stay away or go. My daughter had a accident last year and has regular appointments at hospitals and i had been going when we were a family but 2 months ago, her mother and i broke up and i have only seen my daughter twice since then. I had been trying to sort out access without going to solicitors as i wanted to be friends with her mother so that things wouldn't be awkward when matters concerning our daughter came up but her mother had other ideas and has not let me see her since. I recently got solicitors involved as things were not happening and they said not to contact my ex so i haven't. I have been making calls to the relevant hospitals and docters to find out info and found out that my daughter has an appointment soon and possibly surgery when she goes, so do i go with the very likly event of being verbally abused by her mother and/or worse things happening or do i stay away and just phone hospital to be told what was agreed and what happened? I'm so confused, i want to go for support for my daughter who is nearly 3 and believe it or not, to help and support my ex, along with getting the info first hand from the doctors. Any help and advice would be appreciated.