[Solved] how and when do i ask for interim contact?

Hi Steve182 🙂

Unfortunately you have to wait until the directions hearing. You could try writing to her solicitor to ask for interim contact in the meantime and remind them that in all likelihood the court will award interim contact and expect both parties to start working together for the benefit of the child. At the directions hearing they will try and get you both to reach some sort of agreement and it would be best for everyone concerned if you could start that process before the hearing.

Best of luck

Thanks Nannyjane, am I right in thinking then that I just ask the court for it on the day and they will consider and decide at the same directions hearing?
thanks
steve

Yes thats right Steve, as you mentioned in previous posts that you havent seen your child for quite a while, you might get supervised contact in the interim. Good luck 🙂

Thanks, I have a telephone call with cafcas booked in for june whereby they'll ask questions and want to know a little more about the situation, as I understand it, there report is detrimental to the outcome. I've been reading up on this area and it seems its important that I don't say anything that can be wrongly perceived by the support worker, i.e aggression, bitterness or down talking about the mother, The same is said about my attendance in court. Although I want to speak my mind, I cant let that be disadvantageous to me, so its quite difficult to come across unhappy that ive been denied access to my son, but without saying the mother is bitter spiteful and childish ect, I want a healthy relationship for my sons sake so even though I want to let off steam, it seems fruitless to do so given the way things can be misperceived and interpreted to the court, am I going down the right track with this kind of mindset / communication?

thank you
steve

Its so important to remember that! Just be truthful without being bitter. Be calm and reasoned and always try and come from the position of what is best for your son, and how your only priority is his happiness and well being. When you are referring to him always say "our" not "my" son, a small thing but often picked up on by a judge.

Tell them that you felt it unfair to your son most of all that he be denied a relationship with you. Talk about the best interests of your child being best served by having both parents involved in his life. Tell them about how close you were before contact was stopped, and how you have tried hard to reach agreement but were left with no other choice but to ask the court for help in reuniting you with him.

You can express you're unhappiness at being denied contact, a little bit of emotion isnt a bad thing, it just shows your depth of feeling for him....theres nothing wrong with admitting you miss him alot.

As I said, be open and honest and speak from the heart and hopefully you wont go wrong. 🙂

Thank you very much, some very sound wording there and advice, there which sounds right on the ball to me, you've given me some excellent points to mention and the core being how its in our sons best interest to have a relationship with both parents, much appreciated
Thanks
steve