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Wife left with kids 5 weeks ago and she has been the one abusing them, she prearranged it with SS a long time ago and they helped her move due to disability to do it herself, Since then denied all contact
This morning I had a job 50 miles away and saw them instantly they came to me so I took them back home, I am there parent and some how ended up being the one taking care of them most of the time from morning to night 80% of the time to so there mums moods did not get taken out on them. This was reported to SS but do not appear to be doing much.
I have submitted the legal documents weeks ago to disclose her address and seek full custody they are 4 &5 years old,
Do I put them back in there original school, prepare a position statement ready for court, or keep them safe until first hearing so she can not try to snatch back.
I am willing to let the wife see them so long as, she is not alone and can not remove them,
There is a lot more to this story and legally I have not broken any laws but morally in some eyes yes.
The children was being mistreated in a emotional controlling way (shouted at and occasionally hit),
Advise required I know the judge will not like what I have done but its my child's safety that is important.
Through out the past weeks I have been led to believe my children was not attending any school, or being monitored.
I hate to say this but your actions may have jeopardised any chance you had of being granted custody. If the SS assisted the mother to move out then they obviously do not feel that the children are at risk with the mother.
When did you take them? Have you had any contact with the mother or the authorities since you took them?
I really do not want to judge you, I understand that you feel you are protecting your children but the courts will take a very dim view of your actions unless you can prove categorically that the children were being abused....it doesn't look like you can do that. I feel for you but I have huge reservations about the outcome.
How did you get the children if there supposed to be in her care ? I would expect a knock on door very soon from ss an the police
I had to do something similar when the ex left she took the children and after a few weeks I brought them back home. The same evening she turned up, I called the police and after the police spoke to the children who wanted to stay with me, that’s what happened. A little bit too it than what I just said, so PM and I'll go through the details with you. I'm guessing you have PR and you have taken them back to the family home? Concentrate your argument on bring stability to the children, I don’t know your situation, but chances are it's going to be more difficult to prove emotional abuse. Cutting all contact is going to make you look unreasonable, maybe she can come and see the children in the family home.
I would not stop the children from going to school, the reason you've taken back I guess is to get them back into their normal routine and see they friends in the area, so do your best to keep that up. Your children are still young so that might work against you. If she turns up unannounced at the house make sure to record everything...
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