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Will I have to pay if this goes to a hearing and fact finding?
Yes, the choice is yours whether you oppose the order or not. Unfortunately you can't claim loss of earnings against the mother but its very unlikely that costs will be awarded against you. If the Judge is only dealing with the non mol, he/she won't discuss child contact at the same time but will advise you to make a separate application. It sounds as though your application is behind this one so they won't be heard together. You can explain that you have applied for contact and, if the non mol is made, you can ask for a clause that you can contact your ex for the purpose of arranging child contact. However, as you daughter is so young and you haven't seen her for some time, be prepared for any agreed contact to be at a contact centre in the first instance when that hearing takes place.
I have just spent the past 5/6 hours going through the statement and pulling it apart one by one with evidence to back it up. I will not agree to things that are untrue and I certainly will not allow someone to abuse this power to try and diminish me. I wont accept something that is against who I am, I can't be unauthentic to myself as this wont sit with me. I will fight for the truth, karma is very real and I believe I have nothing but good intentions in my heart.
If you refuse to accept the allegations and undertakings then it will go to a hearing. You won't have to pay legal costs if you lose. The only costs will be if you have legal representation. The child arrangements order is a separate matter so the Judge won't consider that unless the application is before him/her. If some sort of order is made you can ask that its worded to permit contact for child arrangements. However, if not, then when the child arrangements is considered, you can ask for any non mol/undertakings order (if that happens) to be amended.
Looking at this application, she thought it would be as simple as fill out the form with malicious lies to make him look like a danger and I will get my precious order granted.
Little did she know that the judge has looked at the application and thought hmm there isn’t any evidence to suggest that her allegations are true and didn’t grant it. This is clearly a contact issue only and they want to hear my side of the story.
Its so sad how desperate she has become, she is really clutching at straws now. She has also applied for a injunction order so I am also waiting for that call any day soon.
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