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Posted by: @djsmith

@prisma actd has stated be very polite (No contact directly it's going to get very messy) Just make sure your house is all in order Let them go via their Solicitor or court at the end of the day your not friends with, end of story!

As my solicitor said to me this is business and has to be done correctly or it will cost you thousands

She doesn’t have a solicitor just this annoying McKenzie friend.

I am only going through the right channels ie; the courts. I have no direct contact with the ex and I intend to keep it that way.

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Topic starter Posted : 07/12/2021 7:27 pm
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@prisma Pleased that your all sorted in that aspect beaware that x will try and put pressure on you and her McKenzie friend will become very frustrated by all of this the next week or months will be very stressful but try and use your true friends around you!

For me it's a waiting game but beleave me it has become stressful but your get through it. 🙂

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Posted : 07/12/2021 7:43 pm
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@prisma Pleased that your all sorted in that aspect beaware that x will try and put pressure on you and her McKenzie friend will become very frustrated by all of this the next week or months will be very stressful but try and use your true friends around you!

For me it's a waiting game but beleave me it has become stressful but your get through it. 🙂

I have another hearing next week, the judge will look at my statement and evidence and decide the next step.

Hopefully because I have proven her lies it will get overturned and that will be that.

It has started to have an effect on my health but you have to keep fighting on for justice!

This is all part of her plan and the beginning stages of parental alienation.

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Topic starter Posted : 07/12/2021 7:49 pm
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@prisma Agree my x has alienated me from my children for going on 18 Months lucky for me that I was with them all throughout there younger days, but 17 going on 18 (Trouble) ahead and my Daughter 13 going on 14 l feel very sorry for as x has fed her and used her (My Daughter has lost out) but my door will always be open they have my number but x will not allow them to call write etc hoping that I will flip.

You have to stay strong and at the end it will all full into place.

 

Courts / Cafcass the system is all against us but the courts donot like parental alienation

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Posted : 07/12/2021 8:59 pm
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I agree with the above - do everything through the proper channels, and I would be tempted to do a polite message to her McKenzie's friend requesting that he/she does not contact you directly.

They aren’t a solicitor, do they even have a right to contact me?

They are starting to become a burden if I’m honest.

They have been hounding children services for a report etc.

@prisma, I'm not 100% certain, but I would say that they have no right whatsoever. McKenzie's friends are not regulated, so anyone can set themself up as a MF so I can't see any way it could or would be enforced. 

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Posted : 07/12/2021 9:46 pm
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@prisma If court orders that you have to send statements to other party, then if only way to send it to ex is via the MF, then I think it should be fine to send it. If she had a solicitor, you would have sent statement to them.

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I’ve let the courts deal with it as requested on the letter. I am having nothing to do with the interfering MF!

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Topic starter Posted : 08/12/2021 6:23 am
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The RightsofWomen website has a very helpful guide on the role of a McKenzie friend and what they can and cannot do.  This may be helpful

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Posted : 08/12/2021 11:37 am
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I have a hearing next week. I have submitted my statements along with evidence.

If I have proven with facts and evidence that the ex has clearly lied throughout her application, will this be enough to cancel the order?

 

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Topic starter Posted : 12/12/2021 5:14 pm
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Hi

Its great that everything has been submitted. I would just caution that what we see as clearly refuting the judge may see differently.. Unless you have had legal representation confirm this to you I would not take it for granted and therefore prepare well for the hearing. 

 

All the best. 

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Posted : 13/12/2021 1:23 am
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I have another hearing this week and I’ve been stuck with what approach to have.

All of this has been having an impact on my health and well-being being, I just want it to be all over but I also believe in fighting for the truth.

I have proven with evidence that the allegations are untrue and I contested the allegations and the offer of undertakings.

I have considered the undertakings if they are offered again but only if they are mirrored by the ex.

But then I’m also stuck with fighting for what I believe in and standing by ground. I believe the ex will make further false allegations even if I do agree to undertakings. (This is one big malicious and strategic game she is playing to create more leverage between myself and my child)

Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

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Topic starter Posted : 14/12/2021 7:23 pm
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I fully understand.



Sometimes you Just have to say ok the truth will come out it can not be hidden for Life something called Karma will happen, but at the end you do what's best for “you” your mental wellbeing it will take a hit could take you years to recover plus the Debit and worry that you got yourself into.
With me if it helps.

I can say, was going to fight but thought about my options seeked good advice, cleared x debit even though yes false allegations lied to the police, lied to Cafcass / Courts etc managed to get legal aid sorry to say it was stay sane and have my Mental wellbeing in tacked well only, still recovering from all of this or fight to clear my name of the false allegations at the end none were proven but the court / Cafcass still fell for x Drama and here say and pity / could have gone down the fact finding, witness statements and witness character reference etc would have cost a packet all for what?

I would have felt better but would have not have got my costs back and guess what x lives in the family home with the children all paid for on the benefit street.
Courts / Cafcass don’t care, if your living on a park bench in your car, because there’s children involved and that x has played the system, but at the end once this all ends you will end up the better person with your head held high God forbid if x comes knocking it will be to late you would have got your life back!
By that time you would have moved on.

Yes I still have not seen my Son or Daughter for over 2 Years once this is over it will be 6 Years they will be, Son 22 Daughter 20 they will make up there own minds and Guess what my door will always be open to them!
Can't say the same about the x!

Last thought you put your children first that you always loved them and made sure that they had a roof over there heads no matter what (at the end they will always thank you for that) well you can always hope but your Conscience will be clear your x well she will have to live with that for the rest of her life!!


Sorry being long.

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