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Hi. This a warning to all Dads who go to court , then get instructed to attend mediation then after mediation take the FM1 back to court and you have come to an agreement for contact. This is what happened to my son. He took his ex to court because she controlled access even stopping it on a whim, controlled where he took her ,who he was with, you all know the type. Well after great expense on our part mediation was successful and they agreed on contact , yippee great relief . It went back to court and the Judge was really pleased mediation had worked and a P R was granted. What we didn't know was the court cancelled the application for the contact order, my son had asked for a defined contact order, due to her controlling ways. This info only came out to light this weekend, my son had the paper work and didn't fully understand it.
At the moment he brings his 4 year old to us the one weekend a month he has her for two over night stays, its half way and agreed at mediation, He informed his ex he would be taking his Daughter to his home and to meet his Dad (they haven't met yet) she went mental and said , no your not you can only go to your Mums I will review it in January. My son thought he had the contact order and replied it doesn't stipulate I have to stay at my Mums I can take her. Well she had never really read the order , so off she went then discovered there was no order she rang him back jumping up and down with Glee, no order you do as I say or you take me back to court or mediation, my son said , you paying for it then, nope she said . So here we are back at square one.
PLEASE BEAWARE IF YOU AGREE AT MEDIATION GET THE FM1 TURNED INTO A CONTACT ORDER OR ITS WORTH NOTHING
Hi AK57,
Really sorry to hear it turned out htis way but appreciate the heads up.
Regards,
Dave
I have to say I seem to remember advice on this a while ago saying to get everything from mediation written into a contact order to ensure that it is stuck to by your ex but I guess by both parents really.
If they agree in mediation then why shouldn’t it be written up in a court order!
As far as we were aware it was supposed to have been, we went to court for a defined contact order, but when my son went to the final hearing with the FM1 the judge said he was really pleased mediation had worked and just took it on himself to cancel the order but gave a P R . My son didn't realise till the paper work was sent to him. Now she knows its control time again
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