My main issue is having been accused on all these things in the court order. I am going to list each point and counter act it with my version of events. I am also looking for a soliciotor to represent me at short notice proving difficult. At the same time as trying to find somewhere to live it is proving to be a nightmare all this. I just feel like giving up but i cant
Good for you - don't give up. There are some helpful guides on representing yourself on the Advicenow website. The RightsofWomen website has info on how to write a witness statement. Keep it factual and as brief as you can. You could still try to find a local charity to help with your statement if you have been a victim of domestic abuse.
@obsession1 daddyup has given great advice. maybe you could seek an initial free consultation from a solicitor about this. if the easiest route to get child contact is to accept a non-mol undertaking on basis you have done nothing wrong, then possible thats something you could consider doing. I understand that court can give an exception to allow you to make child arrangements if a non mol stays in place. would recommend you seek legal advice before deciding which option to take.
Ive not seen my child for 5 weeks, every day i was with him. She has stopped me seeing the child. Im advised by the police and legal advice to not cause trouble. I had done the mediation (rejected) and the c100. I await a court date. I just don't get all this i've done nothing wrong and none of what accused of. I presume i will go to court for the c100 she will make up a pack of lies that will be looked into and drag on and on and on at the same time i'm losing my bond with my son. It simply is not fair and i am trying to hold of some bad thoughts that are trying to overpower me. Ive lost the women i love who i am not battling and my child.
Hi
In the immediate aftermath of things like this happening it can feel like there is no way forward and no light at the end of the tunnel to aim for.
However, as many of us on here will tell you, it is possible to get to where you want. But, there are things you have to do in the meantime.
Research the legislation, processes etc, work on your mental/physical health so that you are in the best shape possible for what's to come. You have to plan and strategise to tackle this and not give up.
Many women think that by making things hard that we will just give up and make things easier for them. It's all about how you approach it but have an awareness that it's not a quick process. Courts have delays esp due to Covid. Children are resilient, don't worry about the bond, once you start seeing again no matter how long it takes the bond will be there and will develop/strengthen again.
You mentioned you are waiting for c100 hearing, you will have non mol first. It is difficult to get a solicitor at short notice but keep ringing around until you find one. Also understand how they charge. Some do fixed fee others by the hour (so 6 minute blocks), if it's hourly then do not sit there having a breakdown and accepting cups of tea, the solicitor will just bill you more. Prepare questions and go in to focus on these when meeting solicitor.
You mention living arrangements, consider shared accommodation in the interim if it helps with financials, due to Covid many are looking for lodgers etc and can move in quickly..
You also need to consider CMS (not sure if you have mentioned already) but this is anothrt area where mothers can be difficult and how much they want you to pay vs how much you should be paying.
The suggestion of local domestic abuse charities is good too.. They may even be able to advise re legal matters and point you to a solicitor.
Keep focused and be strong.
I have instructed a solicitor who will speak to me and look at the information then attend the courts with me. I can see this being the start of a very expensive process but the end gain will be worth every dime.
The CMS is sorted out i am paying what they have told me i should be which will wound my pocket but its life.
I went to the court, it has been ajourned why i provide my evidence. It was easier than i thought. Ive come to the conclusion it makes no odds what way they go with it.