[Solved] Need advise on what to do now :/

If like you say the agreement was between you and social services then contact them or use the police as you mentioned if she was not to take him from you.

Do you have any of this documented? If so then you should be able to contact the police and social services to get them to return him to you.

thx for the quick reply

the thing is with social services we both went last year together and it was agreed that she could have him back, the only reason ive not let him go back this time was because of the things she sed to her dad about dumping my son and he told me this so i went and got him and didnt let him go back to her :/

so because it got sorted with social i just dont know where i stand now :/

Make contact with them again and bring them up to date with what has happened and your concerns... if you could speak to her father and he agrees to confirm what happened when she couldnt cope this last time that would be helpful. I would also be tempted to call the police as there has previously been social services/child protection intervention...has she had much contact with him since you have been looking after him full time, is he comfortable with her or is he distressed?

thanks again for the reply and yes i do have her own father on my side he knows that my son is better off with me and everything

when he is with her he seems ok but she has not had any contact apart from this week when she is denying me to have him back

the other day when i took up some nappies for her which i agreed on i saw and played with him for a hour but when i was leaving his little face looked unhappy like he wanted to come with me

i would like him to have contact again with his mum but i would like her to have weekends as everyone knows he is in a better place with me, its just when something dont go right for her she will use him as a weapon against me, its the only way she can make me feel upset and she knows it :/

I'd guess its time for you to look at getting an application in for a Residency Order, with what you say about the situation and backing of Social Services, police interventions etc...
at least if you're granted the Residency you will have some power of being able to get your son back if she refuses to give him back after contact.
failing that i'd say contact via a contact centre or somewhere you know she has to give him back at the end of contact.

thx i have been to a solicitors about getting resedency but because there is no legal aid anymore id have to represent myself and ive no clue what to do maybe id mess things up somehow

There's 2 guides to representing yourself at the top of the legal eagle section - have a read of these and then any questions, post on here and we can answer or ask the CCLC for free legal advice on here. Plenty of dads on here have represented themselves, so will be able to give you lots of advice on what to do and what to expect. It is quite daunting but as long as you prepare thoroughly, you shouldn't find the court a problem.

super thanks guys for all the information its is truly good to see that people take there time to help others

hats off to all you good dads

hats off to all you good dads

Since you're on here fighting for the best interests of your son, that would include you then 🙂

..So she hasn't had contact for months except for this last week when she snatched him....I think you're being too nice, taking nappies to her, what was stopping you from just picking him up and taking him back home, in my opinion you would be within your rights to have done that!

If the child is with you with the approval of Social Services, they consider the child is at risk and as she is not co-operating with Social Services, you contact them, tell the that she snatched him back to enlist their help, tell them what her father has said, they have powers to get the child out of the house, and then approach the Court for a Residence Order.