Ex-Wife and I had a difficult marriage. Her and her family are controlling, sometimes/often nasty.
I suspect for around a year she and her family have been plotting to ‘push me out’. Stopped showing any real care, would gaslight me constantly, accused me of abuse (never touched her).
One day, after a heavy fight and a lot of crying I woke up in the spare room to her taking our 3 year old daughter. My daughter loves me dearly, it goes without saying. And of course, she is the most special thing in my life. Ex wife changed the locks. Tried to force me into psychiatric home (with no good reason).
I went into trauma treatment, and lawyered the f up, after the pain her and her family caused. Treatment did wonders. After a couple months, all the professionals there were so happy with my progress, so they advised I discharged.
A week before I finished, ex served me with a DVRO (domestic violence restraining order). There was no notice and little grounds (occasionally I punched a wall when I had lost my temper and had sent texts saying the strain was so hard, I was hopeless and wanted to die - I didn’t, it was a last ditch effort to get some care out of her, I suppose). My lawyer was in contact with her lawyer. I’ve had to fight for time with my daughter, and ex and her attorney have forced the nanny to attend, saying I’m a harm to my daughter. I have never even lost my temper or raised my voice to my daughter. It is a horrible move. One day, I was with my daughter and the nanny, at a friend’s kid’s birthday party, and my ex and her lawyer had me served with papers. In front of my kid. They were papers they had already served me digitally, and gotten to my lawyer weeks previously. Total evil.
There’s more but I can’t bare to share anymore right now. Anyone else had experience with this desperate and nasty attempt to get ‘a leg up’ for full custody? I want 50/50 but can’t even get close to discussion until the DVRO hearing (that they’ve already made the court extend once). I am somehow much happier knowing this toxic relationship is over but 3/4 hours, 3 times a week as the only time with my daughter (monitored) is the hardest thing.
Thanks for listening. [censored] hath no fury like a woman scorned. Especially when said scorned woman has a horrible attorney and an even worse family.
Hi,
Sorry to hear this. On the positive side your limited time with daughter should only be temporary, and should become unsupervised at some point. Would suggest you keep in touch with your lawyer and see if it's possible to increase time with your daughter in the meantime.
@bill337 thank you for your response. Feels good to know we’re not alone. And yes, my lawyer is fighting as much as he can. Dealing with an attorney on their side who uses dirty tactics. I’ve learned it seems it’s a marathon, not a sprint. May take some time but confident happy days with my daughter will come soon.
Happy new year