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Hi All,
Quick question as I’ve not been able to find anyone that can give me a decent answer to something that I need to know! It looks like the Court and CAFCASS are going to go with a shared residence setup between me and the ex. Does anyone have any experience of this and what overnight stays typically look like?
Just had a Contested Interim Hearing and the judge gave me 4 nights a week in his starting position. We then negotiated a 3/4 – 4/3 bi-weekly arrangement whilst CAFCASS do a section 7. So really unsure what CAFCASS will recommend and what a judge will decide. Just want to have an idea of what a typical shared arrangement will look like.
DT.
Ok...my second son and his partner split up about 20 months ago at which point their
little one was 18 months old.
They agreed from the start that their son had a right to both parents and the set up,
although it looks complicated, it is just a matter of organisation.
I give you an example of a typical fortnight :
Sunday eve he arrives and stays with us until Monday lunchtime when we take him to
nursery.
Tuesday evening his mum drops him off at our house and he stays until Wednesday lunchtime when
we take him to nursery.
He comes back to us on Friday eve and stays until Monday lunchtime, then comes Tuesday eve,
stays until Wednesday and then comes back on Sunday eve.
This way both parents have a weekend with him...holidays are done by discussion, this year
my son took his boy to Disneyland Paris and mum took him for a 10 day holiday to Cornwall.
Take care
Kirsten
Shared residence has very little to do with an equal share of contact. Shared care is more to do with taking the presumption of the resident parent being superior to the non resident parent out of the equation... It's expected that both parents will put aside differences and arrange between themselves the when and how often of contact and to be attuned to the child's needs and to be flexible as the childs needs change with age and circumstances.
The fact that you have been awarded a 50/50 split is certainly positive and unless the section 7 throws up problems I can't see the judge reducing this.
There is no typical really but I would say that it isn't usually a 50/50 split! Sometimes the judge won't write any defined contact into the shared residence order, expecting the parents to work it out themselves.
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