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Hi,
Does anyone have experience with using text messages received from an ex partner as part of a legal case - in this case a response to a writ? I have handwritten records of most messages sent and received but had to delete a lot from my phone as there have been hundreds!
Among these messages are admissions that she hit me and "played" me (her word) during our relationship. Would be valuable to have these as she has generally been very careful about doing and saying certain things when there is no record or witness.
Someone told me a long time ago that I can apply to my phone company to get an official printout from their system of all messages sent/received by my phone. I have tried this (T-Mobile) but have not got anywhere. Can't seem to find the right person who even understands what I am asking for.
Many thanks
(in Scotland)
Yes I used text messages in court and it worked quite well.
The magistrate showed my ex the message that had been sent from her phone. My ex said that she didn't remember sending it and that she probably didn't send it but it was obvious from her guilty look that she had.
So yes use text messages as they are a record and can come in useful.
Yes use them. if you can index them by date and time it adds to their authenticity. If only handwritten she could state she didnt write them so an offical transcript would help. sometimes only a court can order those.
I myself have texts where my ex has admitted having a myriad of issues including DV towards me despite her claiming it to be the other way around. i will be using them in court for sure as the way i see it if this cant be counted as evidence why should her baseless accusations. If you get any further in trying to get an offical transcript please let me know.
I certainly used text messages in support of my case a number of years ago. I copied and pasted every message into a file on my phone every time I sent or received one (mostly received as I rarely sent) and then copied this to my PC, so exact dates and times were recorded. A court will normally accept these at face value - if you ex denies sending them at all, then you could demand she produces a copy of her bill, that would tie in the texts with the time you have on your transcription, and that would normally be enough to stop any further arguments.
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