[Solved] Wife secretly recording conversations

as far as i'm aware recordings made without the knowledge of the other party would show that they are controlling their responses/actions and therefore controlling your responses and actions.....sounds very underhanded to me.

I'm not sure about the legallities of it so i'm sure one of the expert boarders will have better to help you with.

Be wary of your responses, double check your responses in your head before you speak them knowing that she's likely to be trying to provoke a reaction from you......in the mean time why not play her at her own game but tell her that you're recording the converstation for rference and your own protection!

Yeah, wouldnt get hecked up. She has not consented you and unless there is suggestion of significant harm (cracked me up when one of the clerks described our DV as handbags), it shouldnt be applicable. Where most people fail is delaying proceedings, the longer you leave it the longer people risk not seeing there children when the situation is not amicable. Good luck.

I would not bow in and just stick to your guns and apply for contact/residence and do not bow down to financial demands cause she is gonna want both anyway 🙂

Thanks, I am trying to hurry the proceedings along so that the situation doesn't get any worse, but as yet she refuses to even tell me what her demands are. Sometimes it seems she is arguing with out any cause to do so, I might agree to what she asks..........if she'd tell me. Looks like we are bound for court at some point!

www.acitylawfirm.co.uk/recorded-conversations

As its a civil case its a grey area... Do you have proof that she is blackmailing you with the threat of disclosure of the recordings if you don't comply with her wishes...that would be helpful.

If you can recall your conversations with her and don't recall anything that can be used against you then you have nothing to worry about.

I believe they can be used in court. My son's ex claims that they made a secret recording of my son not interacting with his daughter and the judge has ordered that they submit it along with other information and their Scotts report.

My understanding of recordings is that you may record a cnversation without the others cosent but you must obtain both parties consent for it to be used.

I also understand that the recording must be transcribed rather than played in court.

I will dig out where I got this information from and get back to you.

Regards,

Dave

You haven't said whether they are made in face to face conversations or whether she is recording phone calls. It is legal to record the conversations as far as I am aware, but if it is a phone call, then the recording can't generally be used in court, however, a judge does have the discretion to say they can be used, I believe, and in any case, you ex can transcribe the tapes and present these to court.

Ultimately, you need to be cautious in all your communications.