PLEASE HELP ME.. im losing my mind
recently broke up with my gf of 1 year soon after we had our first child...
she has registered him and not put me on the birth certificate.
now she wont let me see him at all after i asked her very niceley if i can see him without her there as im still quite upset from the break up and seeing her only make me cry and feel very low.
its now been left with me having to take legal action...
has anyone had to go down this roaD?
why these women are so unresnoble??
why do they say things and do things they know are gonna hurt ..
really had enough..
really feel like i have nothing to live for...
Hi There and welcome to the site,
Your not alone and finding this site will help you a lot, there is a vast amount of experience here from most angles and we have legal and child services aboard too.
What your feeling is normal and unfortunatly not uncommon, however there is plenty you can do, taking legal action to be able to see your child is an option and there is a guide in the legal section written by Yoji explaining how, it doesn't have to be an expensive option as you can represent yourself.
This sounds daunting but really isn't as bad as it sounds and can work out better than having a solicitor there with you.
from reading on this site and experience females are no different then we are really, they want to spend as much time with thier children as we do, the difference is they have them with them and can find it easy to deny access.
The courts and mediation system are used to dealing with these issues and are pretty good at seeing through any false lies or reasons they may have at stopping access.
I'm here most of the day so please feel free to talk and let me know more and i'll see what I can do to offer advise.
Darren
thank you... i have contacted the mediation and a legal aid advisor solicitor, theyre are wqriting to her to propose some conditions.
im just so fed up tired and scared of what my life is gonna be like .. i still love her but with what shes done and the way shes carrying on im scared of what im gonna do she is so unresnoble
and she wont sit down and talk she just thinks shes right.. id sacrifice all of my beliefs so that my boy has a good up bringing...
i dotn know how much more of this i can take.. im having suicidal thoughts everyday and they are getting stronger...
i dotn know how long i can go on
I well coming here is a good start.
tell me how you feel today, are you feeling any worse than any other day?
yes she just is impossible... and i dont want to live like this... i think ive just had enuff... i have reached breaking point and its getting worse why do they feel they have every right to do this to someone... ive begged and begged but shes carrying on like i deserve all this...
Hi Crazy Baby Mother,
Welcome to DadTalk - wow you sound like you are going through a really tough time at the moment.
Have you thought about talking to your GP about how you are feeling? Trust me it would be a good idea.
Because of how low you are feeling I would also like to give you details for the Samaritans, if you are considering suicide then please speak to them first. They can be contacted at any time and the service is totally confidential. Their phone number is 08457 90 90 90 or you can email them jo@samaritans.org.
Keep talking to us.
Gooner
Hey welcome to the forum and thanks for being so honest about how you are feeling and the suicidal thoughts.
As you've no doubt seen many Dads on here have, or are where you are mate, and feelings of desperation, anger, hopeless- and helpless ness are 'normal' when a crisis like this is happening.
Like Darren - I guess I want to aks if today is any worse? And whether you've had suicidal thoughts before?
Happy to 'listen' bud, tell us more
Buzz
I'm sure you don't deserve it, there is help available to get through this.
I know I have been where you are now and it feels like you have no where to turn, talking here is the first steps to finding help and support to get through,
stay talking and tell me how or what I coan do to help?
im not gonna call the samaritans... im not crazy this b* is just pushing me too far now.. how can she hold all the cards on my life?? why dosnt she just f*** fix up and stop going on abou the past...
now i know i never wanted the baby and wasnt ready to be a father.. but she knew the day i saw his little eyes and tiny nose i melted.. i cant explain the feeling...
now that shes taken him away from me registered him and not even given him my surname.. all to prove a point and to make me upset... its working im upset now i feel helpless
i wanna punch her in the face so hard i knock her head off... ive never hit her or be violent im a very peacefull person.. but shes pushing me to the end of reason...
i wont kill myself im just venting anger and rage built up inside.
Vent away! Sh1tty times!