You need to get this back to court ASAP a get a more defined order you should be seeing your child at least every other weekend and mid week by now you can't carry on like this I'm sure the courts would agree.
What exactly did the court last order and was it a final hearing seems very strange you have to see your child with mum and the bf present :/
Hi CBM
Contact supervised by the other parent rarely works for the reasons you have stated. When was your final order made? If it was quite recently you can try asking the judge who made the order for a new hearing to be listed. If not, you will have to attempt mediation and make a fresh application to court.
It seems strange that she would have made an application herself as the above scenarios would have applied there too & you would have received some sort of paperwork.
I would be pushing for unsupervised and start off in a contact centre if necessary, much better than under the mother's supervision. I'm sorry to hear you didn't get help from the bar pro bono unit, I would definitely pursue this with them. If you are finding it necessary to return to court, you could try attending a Families Need Father's branch meeting in your area to get assistance or consider using a McKenzie Friend although it's wise to get one recommended.
Good luck
I have had to read through a lot said to understand your story.
Having been through the supervised sessions and had similar problems with other parties being invited and interfering with my time with the kids, I would say it is really down to what the court order says.
As a rule, I wouldn't encourage anybody to have a contact supervised by their ex. Use a contact centre or a third party e.g. foster parents in your area or professional mediators or respectable individuals e.g police officer friend, doctors...you get the gist. They have to attend court for questioning by the Judge.
Get the supervised sessions completed consistently with a clear progression plan.
saw my son today.. her mum came.. it was better.. no tension.. just spent the time teaching my son how to fly like superman and teaching him how to hold on the big boy swings lol
these moments will stay with me foever and be things that continue to make ,e fight for what I feel is basic time.. and the more time I can fight for..
im interested to know who has took this further where I am I am now? and if the mother refuse to accept what the judge has ruled what actually does happen other than goin court over and over again...
ive made my mind up were definitely having to go back to court... what else is there mediations been refused... theres no middle ground... if I approach her mother im sure she will try to say some bs that im harassing her...
hmm,... smart moves need to be made.. open to more suggestions..
Unfortunately, where you're at now - mediation or court are the only options to move things forward. If the mother won't agree independently there's really not much more you can do than look for court assistance.
Yeh darren she said this in the text that they hoped he would get better... but still letting me know yesterday wen he was ill since exmas eve is just not on... wen she came to my house to give his presents back and give me abuse.. she nvr mentioned it...
I received the below email yesterday
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I wasn't going to message you about this until I was certain about how Alex was on the last visit.
Alex is currently being treated for medical issues regarding his behaviour and had been given a sedative to help him sleep and he only seems to be having night terrors after visitation and he isn't settled after your visit with his behaviour getting worse each time.
I really do not feel that this is fair on Alex as it seems that after visitation he seems to sleep walk and scream at night then a week after visitation he sleeps fine no sleep walking or screaming at night.
Then after he has visitation with you he goes back to screaming at night and sleep walking.
I think that visitation is too much for him and I feel that until he is seen by a paediatric doctor and psychiatrist he should not be put through the trauma.
When you left it took me and my mum 2hours to settle him and he had sedative to go to sleep after waking up 5 times screaming.
His doctor and health officials know of what's going on and I feel that it's too much for Alex.
I do not wish to argue I have enough problems with helping Alex and I don't think that right now is the best time for him to have you around as he has enough going on. Seeing you isn't helping him
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Ignore it it's complete and utter bull have you made inroads to getting this back to court?
makes me so angry why ?? what is the point in being so vindictive?
Who knows mate women are a mystery sometimes I still can't suss out why my ex was such a vindictive [censored] from [censored] she's completely back to normal now after 2 years of being a nightmare, get it back to court ASAP man the tide is turning and judges are starting to get a lot harsher on these Women, she will live to regret it my ex has her tail right between her legs now I can tell she feels a complete [censored] for the way she has acted whereas I can hold my head high with no regrets knowing I never lied cheated of done an injustice to my child just like you will when you get it sorted.
another issue comes from the power women have and abuse through mediation and the court process... i'm doing something about it and petitioning for an "Interim child access order" for consideration by Lord justice Munby, which levels the playing field in separation.
www.change.org/p/lord-justice-munby-acce...ion-or-courts-finish
good morning everyone!!!!!!
WOW I CANNOT BELIEVE MY POSTS HAVE HAD 34K VIEWS!!!!!
right well the fight is still on!!!!!!!
im now going the full custody route on the basis that she is unfit to be a respobsible parent!
making my application this week following a whole load of usuall bull*!
im in a great position in my life.. a stable relationship a great happy haome with room for my son to live with me a good secure job great friends and family all around me!
and the reason she has now stopped contact again... because my son met my gf... I mean of all the stupidf bull* petty ridiculous reasons....
I mean this woman is something else a living example of the nasty cretins we allow to bring up our children using an innocent boy to manipulate and dictate who and when I see my child this is silly I laff as its so ridiculous...
the double standard the petty messages ive received will make you all cringe...
so now im taking the fight back to court... have my c79 ready ! and putting in the post today!
NEXT UPDATE WILL BE MY COURT DATE!!!!!! READY TO FIGHT AGAIN AND ANYONE READING THIS DONT EVER GIVE UP KEEP FIGHTING THESE CRAZY *******!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!