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Holiday with the ex and family

 
(@milliontoone)
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Bit of a strange situation so bare with me ill keep this as short as possible. Me and my ex have one son together. We've been split up a couple of years now and it's something I've struggled with to this day. We still get along really well and speak most days, usually about our son. We try to do as much as we can as a family, like football training, swimming lessons, visiting santa etc etc.

I said our sons first time on a plane and abroad isn't something i want to miss as we should share that experience together. My ex agreed and asked if her mum could come whilst also suggesting mine should too. I didnt mind so we've now booked a holiday me my ex our son 2 mums and 1 sister.

 

As i mentioned I've struggled with the break up since it happened, so much so that I'd love to be able to fix everything and be together again. It'd be good for our son and id like to think it'd be good for us. I'm concerned this holiday is going to convince me of this even more and i dont want to ruin the holiday by making a move or even bringing it up in conversation. I dont even know if my ex even wants to get back together at all. But the amount of time we spend together and talk to each other and now this holiday together, maybe there might be room for a conversation about making the family whole again.

 

What are your thoughts? Appreciate anyone taking time to read and reply

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Topic starter Posted : 13/01/2024 5:31 am
(@bill337)
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hi,

it seems you have a relatively amicable relationship with your ex partner. if you think there is any possibility of both of you reconciling, you can consider it, if you think it might work.

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Posted : 15/01/2024 5:05 pm
 actd
(@actd)
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At some point, you need to speak to your ex about whether she thinks you could reconcile, the other possibility is that you are simply acting as a "comfort blanket". It may be worth considering a counselling service, either just for you or for both of you, so you can sort out your feelings and both move on with your lives, either together or separately.

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Posted : 20/01/2024 11:11 am
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