quick bit of background, my ex took a man in, unbeknown to me he had a sexual harm prevention order, this did not allow him to stay in the home of minors. the social were already onto it, i removed my daughter and a case was brought about to keep her from this man. sadly it was decided, because my ex said i was abusive (as they do), that a care order be granted, I spent the next 8 months being accessed in the meantime my ex claimed she and mr SHPO were no longer an item and she wanted her daughter back. despite social dropping in on her they never found him there, Thankfully mr shpo was caught speeding with no licence and gave his address as that of my ex and my ex was caught on body worn camera agreeing, that he did live there and she would pick him up and bring him home.
I won the case, and got full custody. Because my ex had lied throughout the case, the judge ruled that contact would be 2 hours every forthnight, and it would be supervised. no where in the court order does it state that this would change.
we have since been on a 12 month supervision order, with a social worker visiting occasionally for tea and chats about everything. A family group conference was set up at month 6 to sort out supervisied contact ready for when the order expires. We agreed that my ex's father would supervise the contact between my daughter and her mother, and that has been going well.
We had another FGC yesterday to discuss how its going, no social worker attended and my ex told us she had done some digging and at the end of the supervision order she doesn't legally need to be supervised. She actually said if I tried to push it to be supervised she would take me back to court. It all ended very abruptly with her own parents getting up and leaving saying she had wasted everyone's time.
It was late friday afternoon and I tried to call our social worker but you can never get hold of them when you really need them.
Its left me feeling very uneasy, she is still living with Mr shpo, all the reasons why supervised contact was put in place are still there. The risks are still the same. it certainly doesn't sit well with me, her picking my daughter up to go for a picnic with her [censored] offender boyfriend.
worried...
How old is your Daughter? I think you should trust Mums judgement that will she make sure hers and yours Daughter is safe whilst in Mums care.
Whatever Mothers done and lied about in the past and despite her Judgement in Men (lets not forget she picked you once) - she will be fiercely protective of hers and yours Child.
Can you get back in touch with social services and ask for a review?