Hi!
Im a new member and Im really hoping I can get some advice from you guys.
I have an 8 y.o with my ex partner. I had regular contact at weekends. He lives 50 miles away I collect and return him
My new partner has a son 3 y.o and we have been living a reasonably happy family life for the last 12 months. Living together, holidays together etc.
I run and live in a pub and have recently had very little time spare and relied on my partner to help with many things including my son.
Recently things have been rocky with my son and he has been getting upset and wanting to go home. We haven't been able to pinpoint it and he regularly tells his mum that he doesn't want to upset me and will tell issues to my partner.
This week we had a call from Social services saying that my son has told school and his mum that he is sad when he is with me because my partner smacks her son. This is absolutely not the case and has never happened! There is absolutely no truth in this and I honestly dont know how to deal with it. Social services closed the case within 20 minutes of contacting us and 3 y.o's school
My partner has moved back to her parents and it has really pushed us apart. She is saying right now that she can't deal with it and has major issues with my son now.
So my question is, how on earth should I deal with this. My relationship is on bad ground, my son is lying about serious things like this and my partner is pushing the issue.
Any help or advice is really appreciated
hi,
there is another member on this forum who has had similar issues. they tried to create space and distance, e.g. when child came to spend time with dad, his partner stayed away. they did this as there were too many problems being caused by the partners on both sides etc
It might be worth seeing if there is any family counselling that you, your son and your partner can attend - the counsellor will need to reassure your son that their conversations are confidential unless your son gives permission to share with you.