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(@dadtwofour)
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Hi, new here 😊 I have four wonderful children ranging from 12 to 2 years old. 
I’m hoping to gain some help and advice, but also help out others where I can. 

I do have one question. My eldest is from a previous relationship and has her mum’s last name. Now she’s twelve and has no contact with her mum at all she wants to have my surname. We have our final court hearing this month and in my statement I used a piece of a social services report we had done about a year ago ( my ex told them I wasn’t looking after my children) I ex now wants the full report sent to her, but it contains sensitive information of my other three children which I feel she has no right to see. Am I wrong for telling her she can’t have it? After the report my ex did receive a call from the social worker saying there are no concerns and the case was closed. 

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Topic starter Posted : 09/01/2022 3:03 pm
(@champagne)
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I think its fine to refuse to let her have the full report.  Its a different matter if the court orders full disclosure but you can object to the part that refers to your other three children and hope the court agrees with you.  With regard to changing your daughter's name and, assuming your ex will object, you can apply to the court for permission.  I think if you submit a C100 asap, applying for a 'specific issue order',  you might be able to have the request heard at the next hearing.  Cost is £215 but you might be able to get help with fees if  you're on a low income/benefits

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Posted : 10/01/2022 10:49 am
(@dadtwofour)
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@champagne thank you, that makes me feel much better that someone thinks the same as me. 
we have already put the C100 in last August, we had one hearing asking us to provide statements why the name should or shouldn’t be changed and I used a couple of lines from the report to back up my reasons.
The funny thing is she knew about the report because the social worker called her and also when I called once one of the people in the office let slip who reported me, which was my ex. 

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Topic starter Posted : 10/01/2022 11:09 am
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